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8种迹象表明你在和反社会者约会

8 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath

为了接近一些人 你必须放下防线
In order to get close to someone, you must let your guard down.
这就是为什么坦白你的感受
That’s why it’s always such a big risk to
总会冒着很大风险
confess your feelings.
在约会方面
Experiencing a few heartbreaks
不可避免会受一些伤
is to be expected in the world of dating,
但和反社会者在一起
but it’s a whole another problem
则是完全不同的情况
getting involved with a sociopath.
想知道你是否处于危险中?
Wondering if you’re in danger?
以下是8个你正在和反社会者约会的警报信号
Here are 8 warning signs you’re dating a sociopath.
1 他们表现得很强势 关系进展很快
1.They come off strong and move the relationship quickly.
你的伴侣是否仅仅在约会几次后
Did your partner say they loved you
就说他们爱上你了?
after just a few dates?
反社会者喜欢快速发展
Sociopaths thrive on speed
他们会通过快速发展关系
and they move the relationship fast
来防止你改变主意
to prevent you from changing your mind.
起初这似乎令人兴奋
It might seem exciting at first.
但接下来你将很难
But you’ll have a harder time
从他们的种种谎言中解脱
untangling yourself from their web of lies
并且你会相信他们对这段感情付出很多
and you’ll believe they’re more invested in the relationship than they actually are.
哪怕实际并没有
than they actually are.
2. 你不能长时间生他们的气
2.You can’t stay mad at them for long.
反社会者精通操控别人
Sociopaths are master manipulators.
他们知道如何能让你信任他们
They know which button to push to make you trust them.
心理学家比尔·埃迪指出
Psychologist Bill Eddy notes that
需要警惕的惯用伎俩有
the common patterns to watch out for
夸下海口而不能指望他们实现 夸夸其谈
are big promises they make and can’t live up to, telling exaggerated stories
以及对未来做出毫无根据的宏大计划
and making big plans for the future that have no actual foundation.
3 他们十分精于床事
3.They’re incredibly good in bed.
是的 这是迹象之一
Yes. This is a sign.
在你翻白眼之前 先看看这个
Before you roll your eyes, get this.
反社会者不仅擅长花言巧语
Sociopaths are not only good with their words,
而且也十分擅长性爱
but good at sex.
他们会让你觉得自己有惊人的性吸引力
They’ll make you feel like you have amazing sexual chemistry.
但他们不是因为想取悦你而和你做爱
But they’re not in it because they want to please you.
相反 性爱都是为了满足他们的自我
Instead, the sex is all for their ego.
反社会者喜欢控制他人
Sociopaths love control and they will
他们会通过性爱来支配他人
use sex as a weapon to remain dominant.
4 他们不会带你见朋友
4.They don’t let you meet their friends
以下是原因
and here’s why.
反社会者不会与他人有亲密关系
Sociopaths don’t have close relationships with many people.
精神治疗师罗丝·罗森伯格说过
Psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg says that
除非有求于人 他们不愿交友
they don’t want friends unless they need them.
所以即使他们声称有朋友
So even if they claim to have friends,
他们有的也只是浅薄的表面关系
the connections they have are superficial.
尽管和情人共度黄金时光很美好
Although it’s nice to spend quality time with your lover,
但如果你的伴侣不愿参加集体聚会
if your partner refuses to participate in group hangouts.
这就值得注意了
This might be a potential red flag.
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5 他们经常打破规则
5.They break the rules a lot.
谁不偶尔喜欢坏男孩
Who doesn’t like a bad boy
或坏女孩呢?
or a bad girl every once in a while?
他们真的知道怎么在生命边缘试探
They really know how to live life on the edge,
反社会者也是一样
but so do sociopaths.
尽管并非每一个反社会者都经常违法
Although not every sociopaths go often break the law,
他们常常过度心血来潮
they have a tendency to be overly spontaneous and
并从反抗权威中得到快乐
take pleasure from defying authority.
在这些时候他们都会漠视他人感受
All while disregarding other people’s feelings.
6 你总在为他们找借口
6.You often make excuses for them.
反社会者有个始终如一的特点
If there’s one thing consistent about a sociopath,
就是他们不愿为自己的行为承担责任
it’s their lack of taking responsibility for their own actions.
你有没有发现自己总在道歉
Do you find yourself always apologizing,
哪怕你根本没错?
even when you’re not at fault?
或者每次回家发现家里乱成一团
Or ever come home and discover more messes
都得你去收拾?
you have to clean up?
反社会者会利用他人达到目的
Sociopaths will use people to get what they want,
同时会装成受害者
but will play the victim card and say that
当你提出你的问题时 他们会说他们需要你
they need you if you bring up any of your concerns.
7 他们看上去永远长不大
7.They never seem to grow up.
起初 这可能是吸引你的地方
Initially, this might have been what attracted you to them.
他们时常不可预知 易激动 甚至不顾后果
Unpredictable, excitable and even reckless at times.
他们知道怎么让你保持年轻的心态
They know how to keep you feeling young at heart.
但年轻与不成熟是有区别的
But there’s a difference between youthfulness and immaturity.
高功能反社会者可以保住工作
High-functioning sociopaths can hold down jobs,
而低功能反社会者通常并不能
but low functioning ones often do not.
常被心理学家用来诊断病人的DSM
The DSM, a tool psychologists used to diagnose patients,
也说明反社会者常表现出糟糕的判断力
also states that sociopaths frequently show poor judgment
并且不能知错就改
and fail to learn from their mistakes.
8 他们完美到不真实
8.They seem too good to be true.
反社会者知道如何迷住他人
Sociopaths know how to charm the pants off anyone,
尤其是他们想要与之恋爱的对象
but especially to the people, they want to get romantically involved with.
他们都是爱无能
They have an incapacity for love,
但却知道如何影响你的情绪
but know how to marry your emotions,
让你觉得与他们很亲近 哪怕实际并非如此
making you feel closer to them than you really are.
起初 你会觉得你们简直是灵魂伴侣
Initially, you’ll feel like the two of you are soulmates.
但事实上 他们只知道
But in reality, they simply know
如何表现出你梦中情人的样子
how to be everything you desire in a partner.
你有在生活中发现这些迹象吗?
Do you recognize any of these habits?
不知道反社会者和精神病患之间的区别?
Not sure what sets apart a sociopath from a Psychopaths?
《来吧!心理学》中有个相关视频
Psych2go does have a video on this,
请前去观看
so be sure to check it out.
感谢您的观看!
Thanks for watching!

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本片帮助大家了解反社会者的特点。祝大家感情幸福,不被反社会者伤害。

听录译者

Felicity

翻译译者

Zeitgeist

审核员

审核员_DB

视频来源

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhnbO_711Vk

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