在这个喧闹 日新月异的世界 许多内向的人
In this loud and fast-paced world many introverts find
发现他们自己被社会淹没 击倒 踩在脚底
themselves drowned out, overwhelmed or stomped on by society
这里给出了选择一个内向的人
Here are eight reasons to look
作为人生伴侣的八个理由
for an introvert as a life partner
第一 内向的人很自立
Number one introverts are self-sufficient
你首先需要了解的就是
The first thing you need to know is
内向的人并不需要你 他们不需要人际关系
that introverts do not need you, they do not need relationships
他们也不需要其他人 对 他们不需要他人
And they don’t need others. No they don’t need them
他们想要他人 所以如果一个内向的人
They want them so if an introvert chooses
选择了你 那是他们想要你
you they want you. To want someone is
想要某人比需要某人更有力
so much more powerful than to need them
需要某人意味着需求一旦满足
needing someone means that once that need is
这个人就不再重要了
met, the person is no longer necessary . To
而想要一个人意味着
Want someone however means
有意想要将某人留在自己的生活中
that there’s a conscious effort to keep that person in your life
第二 内向的人很忠诚
Number two introverts are loyal
只要你是内向的人选择的人 你就是
Once you’re an introvert’s person you’re
他们的人了 “句号” 全剧终
their person “period” that’s it end of story
他们不会只是玩玩而已 也不会和他人调情
They won’t play games or flirt with others
他们不会欺骗你 也不会
They won’t cheat on you and won’t
视你为无物 因为
treat you like you’re nothing to them because
对他们而言你无疑就是全部
truthfully you’re worth it all to them
第三 内向的人是好的聆听者
number three introverts are great listeners
他们知道被人忽视
Introverts know what it’s
被人小瞧是什么感觉 当你和他们聊天 他们会全神贯注
like to be ignored and overlooked so when you talk to them you will have their full attention
如果你想要和他们聊天
For you to want to talk to them
无论你想不想知道他们的意见 他们都会觉得很重要
whether to know their opinions or not means the world
如果他们回应你 那他们的回答
If they reply they will have given the response
一定是经过了深思熟虑 他们决不会轻视你的意见
a lot of thought they won’t take your
你可能很快就会发现
discussion lightly and you may soon find that
他们对你的了解比你对他们的了解多得多
They know much more about you than you do about them
第四 内向的人天生就懂得共情
Number four introverts have a talent for empathy
因为他们最关注的是他们头脑
because most of their attention resides in their heads
他们发现自己比大多数人
Introverts find themselves able to connect
更容易和他人产生深层次的联系
at a deeper level quite easier than most
他们可以很容易就读懂别人 尤其是
They can read others easily especially if they know
他们认识的人 他们能感知你的情绪
you well and will feel your emotions as if
就好像那就是他们的情绪一样 不费吹灰之力
they’re their own without having to try
他们不会评价你
They won’t respond with judgment.
他们会理解你
They’ll respond
因为他们了解被人误解的滋味
with understanding because they know what it’s like to be misunderstood
第五 内向的人很真实
Number five introverts are authentic
在当今社会内向的人行为通常看起来和他人的行为格格不入
In today’s world introversion is usually seen as an act of rebellion by others
他们知道自己是谁 也不惧为捍卫自己而战
Introverts know who they are and aren’t afraid to fight for it.
没有必要为了迎合别人而改变自己 在他们眼中
They won’t change to please others. In their eyes
那样做就是说谎
It would only be a lie
只会让你和他们自己感到不悦
and an insult to you and themselves
千万不要和内向的人说你认为他们想听的话
Never try to give an introvert what you think they
他们想听的只是实话
want to hear, what they want to hear is the truth.
第六 内向的人懂得自爱
Number six introverts understand self-love
内向的人通常会花大量的时间
Introverts tend to spend a lot of time
和自己的精神世界交流 这也是为什么
mingling with their own Souls which is why
他们会鼓励你做同样的事情
they’ll encourage you to do the same
当他们看到你真实的自我
When they see your true self
他们会比任何人更加彻底珍惜它
they’ll treasure it more thoroughly than anyone before
因为他们知道
For they know what it’s
学着爱自己必须要了解什么 而其他人知之甚少
like to have to learn to love yourselves much less another
第七 内向的人富有创造力
Number seven introverts can be really creative
他们会花很多时间思考
introverts spend so much time in their own heads
于是他们形成了自己独特的世界观
that they develop their own unique worldviews not all
内向的人不一定要有相同的世界观
introverts will have the same worldview and
他们通常会通过
Usually they express them
艺术 音乐 文学或者全部这些形式去表达世界观
through art, music, literature or all of the above
他们宁愿富有创造力和热情地表达自己
They’d rather express themselves creatively and passionately
而不是循规蹈矩 所以准备好被他们做的事情惊艳吧
than converse, so prepare to be shocked at the things they can do
第八 内向的人有神秘感
number eight introverts can be mysterious
这是和内向的人相处
This will be the hardest to deal
和相恋的时候最难处理的一点
with and falling in love with an introvert
你更可能经常感觉到
More than likely you will always feel
他们对你的了解比你对他们的了解要多
like they know you better than you know them
内向的人倾向于把自己的一部分隐藏起来
Introverts tend to keep parts of themselves hidden
因为情感脆弱是他们的一大敌人
because emotional vulnerability is one of their greatest enemies
但是由于某些原因你可能
But for some reason you’ll
会觉得这种神秘感很迷人
probably find this mystery to be alluring
内向的人是很有价值 很非同寻常的
Introverts are quite valuable quite unusual
他们很少有机会展示自己
And they rarely get the chance to shine
也许你环视四周会发现有一个人
Maybe if you look around you’ll see one lounging
静静地呆在最不显眼的的角落 脸上挂着笑容
in the background watching quietly with a smile on their face
不要走上前去逼他们注意你
Don’t go up and try to force yourself on them
只要追寻房间另一边的他们的目光 微笑
Just catch their eye across the room smile if
如果他们回应你 目光在你身上停留
they return it and linger on you come on
那就走过去 如果他们继续扫视四周
over if they just continued glancing around
不要担心 他们不是在针对你
Don’t worry. It’s not personal
他们的脑袋中还有一半没开窍呢
They’ve just got about fifty tabs open in
也许花点时间
their heads. Who knows, if you put in the
你可能会成为他们的常客 谁知道呢
time you could become one that’s frequently visited
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