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Have you ever seen someone
just got that feeling that they aren’t friendly？
Or have you ever met someone that was warm and inviting,
and became friends with them immediately?
See, you judge a person like the cover of a book,
no matter what your teachers taught you.
It’s how we of all that we need to know who is trustworthy,
who is a leader and who you should stay away from.
Today, we are going to be going over 8 psychological tricks.
They would help you nail your first impression in alien environment.
No.1 Practice confident body language.
There’ve been many studies conducted that show
that your body language not only influences your physiology,
but also the nature of the people that are around you.
If you have your arms crossed, your feet taping nervously and
you have your legs in a crisscross position under your chair,
you’ll be seen as timid and closed off.
Instead of hoping that someone help you break out of it,
you have to do yourself.
Practice at home by sitting up straight,
opening your arms up and widening your legs
as it takes up more space in the room.
You’ll appear and actually feel more confident if you make this a habit.
There’s plenty of things you can do that physiologically
affect your mental state and how others see you.
Try to place your chin straight up to look confident.
Walk with your shoulder’s back and your chest forward
and look people in the eye when you’re talking to them.
Step No.2 Be on time.
That applies to many business situations,
不管是求职面试 见导师 还是上课
whether that be a job interview or a mentorship or even just a class,
you’d be on time and there’s no excuse.
如果有重要会议 你需要提前准备 提早到达
If this is an important meeting, set decided time to get ready
to get there early and some buffer time just in case of
something like extra traffic or you’re missing a flight.
Being on time shows that you take them seriously.
However, there are times that you can be late
and I’ll be going over that in step 8.
I used to be in band, and in fact I played the flutes for
those who you don’t know, and know it’s not a girly instrument.
Anyways, they had the saying in band.
“If you are early, you’re on time.
“If you are on time, you’re late.
“And if you are late, you’re already running lapses.”
I think this can be applied to life too.
想买一件新产品 若你晚去超市的话 就意味着你要花更多钱
If you’re late to market it with a new product, you’re going to lose money.
And if you’re late to a job interview,
you’re going to have a lower chance of getting hired.
Tip No.3 is to use your tone.
And this is another tone that you can definitely practice.
Do this with music in a shower
or talking to people online through skype.
Learn to use your voice from your chest and not your nose,
and you’ll command much more respect.
Sound very confident and project your voice up.
A little tip is to open your mouth wider
to allow some of the sounds to come out more.
What’s that are spoken hardly matter, compared to ways the words are spoken.
Neuro linguistic programming is basically the science of
what you say and how it affects those around you.
But how you say it can mean so much more
If there isn’t enough likes in this video, I may make another video on NLP.
And how to use keywords and things like that put people on the transits.
It’s all right to have a higher pitch voice and
if you learn how to use it effectively, it can be a great tool.
Just always sound confident.
Tip No.4 is to remove the words “Um” and “Ah”.
So um continuing um with previous example.
Ah, if you have the vast content in the world,
but every sentence has an um or ah or like,
and then you’ll not be heard.
Like Charlie Brown, your audience will only hear Wah wah wah wah wah.
Practicing your speech at home is a great way to
improve your tonality to remove your fear of words
and become a more confident speaker.
I find that there are more and more people you speak to in public,
the better you get at avoiding this,
especially if you focus on filling that silence
with one of two things.
No.1 You can fill it with more silence
which rarely is what most people do,
but this will force the other person to talk
unless you both are comfortable with the silence.
The second is to fill it with other words and meaningful sentences.
The key word is meaningful.
If you watch any of the political debates,
you can tell that both of the main 2016 candidates
are extremely good at using filling sentences.
They don’t really mean much, but sound like they do.
Tip No.5 is grooming.
Grooming is key, because the first thing that people look at is the face.
If you have yellow teeth, bad hair and
you haven’t shaved recently or at least maintain your facial hair.
People will also assume that you smell bad
and won’t wanna associate with you.
I know it’s politically incorrect to make these assumptions,
but people still do it, and that’s the point.
I personally struggle with yellower teeth since I drink a lot of coffee,
but I have found a few effective ways to help.
There’re also tons of tutorials you can watch and products you can buy
to help style your hair in a more attracting manner.
Appearance just matter even more today with social media.
We may get their first impression from
a profile picture before even meeting you.
所以请确保一月理一次发 剃干净胡须 保持精干
So be sure to get a haircut at least once a month, clean up and look sharp.
I also suggest watching Alpha M’s video on how to take a profile picture.
Tip No.6 is attire.
Attire in the cloth you wear is important as well, because
after your face people judge you based on what you wearing.
Say I had a friend to apply to a local grocery store.
He went in for the interview, wearing a button-down shirt,
slacks and some nice dress shoes.
Now, you can say that this is normal, but it’s also for an interview.
But he wears the same attire even when he is cashiering or restocking.
In fact, when he was getting show around at the beginning of the hiring process
and he had a store badge on,
everyone who already work there thought that he was coperate,
specifically because he was dressed nice and talking to the managers.
The shocking part of the story is that he is only 19 years old.
Do you know how much respect he gets from the older folks
from dressing like that?
He said some guy came in on the second day
asking him which TV to buy and then the older gentleman
bought the TV without even looking at the specks.
I don’t know if this is respect or not, but I thought it was interesting.
All right, so at a meeting, come in with a fitted suit
if you really want to impress them.
What I’ve learned is that the suit doesn’t have to be
expensive or high quality for most settings,
the key factors is that it fits well.
If you have watched any of Alpha M’s video on this topic
the main thing is that the suit fits you right.
If you have a solid body, with the suit that hugs you
you’ll be miles ahead of most people who have suits
that hang off them as if they wear their uncles’.
Or that they look like they’re about to pop.
For all clothing, get items that fit and suit your style in the environment.
You don’t wanna be wearing a T-shirt and jeans around a cooperate meeting
unless you’re Mark Zuckerberg.
Tip No.7 is eye contact.
Holding eye contact is another key step.
You don’t wanna come off as to intimidating you’re creepy
when you’re staring at someone.
But you don’t want come off as meek and shy with no eye contact at all.
If you make eye contact to someone,
say, at the gym and you do it more than three times,
do not go the fourth time
without striking up some sort of short conversation,
or you will be the weird guy in the gym
or the office, or wherever this is.
Also, if you’re observing someone speaking
or giving a lecture, go with the 80/20 rule
which is to look at the person for 80％ of the time
and then look away for 20％.
This obviously isn’t an exact science
but having a guidline will help tremendously.
Tip No.8 is to know your audience.
Now this is a final step.
You wouldn’t wear a T-shirt to a meeting
and you wouldn’t wear a suit to a friend’s house to hangout.
And I sure with that for I mentioned earlier.
This is pretty obvious, but knowing this can help you adapt
to new situations, specifically when meeting new people and
helping you become more confident when meeting them.
When speaking at the casual conversation,
telling embarrassing stories can also help both of you open up,
but make sure that is not demeaning or hurting anyone else’s feelings.
As a blow to someone’s ego can also make you seem aggressive,
nobody really wants to hang around someone
they feel will mock them or call them out.
In the end though, you want to know your audience,
understand which jokes are acceptable,
and which are not, and you can do this by researching their culture.
So, we have provided you with the steps you’re improving in each area.
So all you have to do is to make them habits one at a time.
If you can’t, focus on one specific topic and work on it,
they will slowly becoming grand into your character
eventually become more and more confident when you meet more people.
This video was created with the help of Kreative Vein(KV)
who has more great videos just like this one on his channel.
I highly suggest going and checking it out.
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