“Men are pigs.” you say,
冰激凌蹭一脸 来填补被拒绝的空虚感 还有背叛
stuffing your face with ice cream to fill the empty hole of rejection and betrayal.
Any relationship is difficult to maintain,
but a romantic relationship between a man and a woman is even more so.
Why is this?
While love is a feeling experienced identically,
the act of falling in love involves two entirely different processes for each sex.
In the case of men,
there are 7 particular steps men follow for falling in love.
第1步 悦目 也是最常见的
The first step, appreciation, is by far the most common.
It’s the act of checking someone out,
focusing on the physical appearance of a potential mate.
Physical appearance is not the most important factor,
yet a condition of a man’s individual preferences must be met.
第2步 赏心 这里就需要开撩了
The second stage, infatuation, involves a need to seduce the target love interest.
Traditional methods involve asking the interest out on a date,
while alternative methods may be based on shared interests and hobbies.
If he is rejected in this pursuit, the man will most likely lose interest.
The third stage is attraction,
where the pursued love interest reciprocates interest in him.
Heartbreak isn’t as difficult to deal with before this point
as vulnerability hasn’t built up yet.
This is the stage where he attempts to get to know the love interest on a deeper level.
A more intense relationship requires both parties to reveal more about one another.
勾魂 这是第4步 简单说就是前几个阶段的加强版
Impression, the fourth stage, is simply an enhanced version of the previous stage.
The potential mate becomes an obsession to the man,
attempting to get their attention in any way, shape or form,
from buying gifts to showing how fun he can be.
Regardless of these obsessive signs,
he is still not in love.
Conviction is the fifth stage,
yet it is far more flexible than the other steps,
spanning from stages 2 to 4.
This is the stage where the man asks himself,
是否能看见 在遥远的将来 他和TA并肩而行
whether or not he can see himself with the interest in the far future.
Considering how difficult it is for the man to establish
if the relationship should become more than it is now.
This is a background-overlying phase,
yet it needs to be completed in order to reach stage 6.
Reaffirmation is the sixth stage,
where the man has successfully met his goal of seducing the love interest.
Only when the potential mate is in this stage
will he seriously consider
whether or not he wants to have an extreme long-term relationship.
The man needs space in this stage.
有时 为了权衡利弊 他会人间蒸发一阵
In some cases, he could disappear to weigh the pros and cons.
若双方达成共识 那么终极目标也已经达成: 承诺
If both parties agree, the final stage — commitment — is achieved.
Both parties will be committed to the relationship at this point.
然后 考虑到这是第7步了 是的 男人终于坠入爱河
And, considering this is the seventh stage, yes, the man is finally in love.
重要的是 无分性别 都需要学会如何去爱
It is important to understand, regardless of gender, to learn how to love.
And often, this involves falling in love.
Hopefully, with these tips,
you found an easier path to understanding how romance works
in the mind of a typical man.
Males can be fickle,
but if you’re into that, keep these steps in mind.
You will be ahead of those who think they know how love works.
And maybe, you’ll save yourself a few pints of ice cream as well.
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