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你准备好对于一段关系结束的7个标志

7 Signs You're Ready for a Closure From a Relationship

重新开始可能是最难的事情之一
Moving on can be one of the hardest thing to do,
尤其是经历了一段失败的感情
especially after the first failed relationship.
我们并不打算是告诉你这会更加容易
We’re not going to tell you it gets easier,
也不打算告诉你
nor are we going to tell you there are plenty
这儿有很多带着感情伤痛的人
of fish in the sea, heartbreak hurts.
但是我们打算告诉你最终他们的伤害会消失
What we will tell you though is eventually their hurting will subside,
也许不是现在
maybe not now,
不是明天 不是下周
tomorrow or next week,
但是事情会开始有转机 只要你花时间和亲密的人在一起
but things will start to look up again as you spend time growing
并且重新发现自己
with close loved ones and rediscover yourself.
你准备好一举重拾信心吗?
Are you ready to tie the loose threads once and for all?
这里有几个信号说明你准备结束这段关系
Here are seven signs you’re ready for closure.
1:你已经明白你们再也不可能了
1.You’ve accepted that things are no longerworking out.
你不再怀抱错误的希望
You’re not clinging on to any more false
也不考虑见最后一面
hope nor are you considering this last meet-up
作为一个修补关系的机会
as an opportunity to fix things.
你意识到
You’ve come to terms
要么是错误的时间 不对的人
with the fact that it was either bad timing, incompatibility or
或者是彼此不愿意妥协阻碍了这段感情的发展
the lack of compromise that has preventedthe relationship from growing.
你不打算审视你的行为
You’re not looking to justify your
或者不再去批评对方
actions or criticize your partner anymore, you just
你只是想要答案
want answers.
2:你准备好承担起责任
2.You’re ready to take responsibility.
有些人争论说你试图寻找结论是在浪费时间
Some might argue that you’d be wasting your time trying to find closure,
那么为什么对许多人来说找到原因仍然如此重要?
so why is it for many that finding reason is still important?
这很简单 心理学家认为只有了解事情的真相
It’s simple, psychologists believe that onlyafter understanding the situation, people
人们才能重新塑造自己 并且对过去 现在 未来有更好的理解
can restructure and understand the past, presentand future better.
在这个过程中
In a large part of this process,
也意味着你对你自己的行为负起责任
also means taking responsibility for your actions.
你意识到你也是
You realize that you too took a part
这段关系的一部分 并且你愿意相信自己
in this relationship and you’re willing to trust yourself
可以做出更好的决定
to make better decisions.
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现在第三点
Now on to point
3:你已经停止责备他人
3;You’ve stopped blaming the other person.
你不再品尝那怨恨的心情带来的苦涩
You’ve moved past the bitter feelings of resentment.
你意识到责备他人并不能改变什么
You realize that blaming the other person isn’t going to change anything.
情感专家认为
Relationship experts believe that many people go into a relationship
人们进入一段关系并没有分析自己的价值
without assessing their own values.
只有在相处的过程中
It’s only along the way that when those values clash
和另一方造成冲突这段感情才会受到损害
with another that the relationship often suffers.
你希望这样的结束
You want this closure to highlight those moments
可以告诉你那些你们不同的瞬间
of disagreement and accept that too you have
只是因为你们不同的价值观而不是去埋怨它们
different values instead of resenting themfor it.
4:你已经停止责备你自己
4.You’ve stopped blaming yourself.
自责是普遍的
Self-blame can be common,
尤其是你没有一种强烈的自我意识
especially if you don’t have a strong sense of self.
这很难做到不自责
It’s hard not to blame yourself
在一段你付出许多精力给一个
after being vulnerable and intimate with someone when
非常亲密的人的关系中受到伤害
you place so much emphasis on what you gave,
但是心理学家Alica Clark认为
but psychologist Alicia Clark states”
自我宽恕帮助你理解上一段感情失败的真正原因
self-forgiveness helps you get to the bottom of why your relationship failed
并且准备迎接下一段感情
and prepares you for your next relationship.
你并不完美 所以不必勉强自己超越一切
You’re not perfect, so don’t beat yourselfup over it”.
5:你想从失败中汲取教训
5.You want to take important lessons from what went wrong.
当你准备好这样结束
When you’re ready for closure,
你不再想要反抗 相反
you no longer necessarily want to react, but rather, you’d
你会客观的审视这段感情
like to process the situation from an objectivepoint of view.
你明白向前生活的唯一办法就是
You realize that the only way to go
分析错误 积极面对
forward is to assess the mistakes and become proactive
不再犯同样的错误
in the future so as not to repeat them.
6: 你明白痛苦是不可避免 但是又是暂时的
6. You understand that the pain is inevitablebut temporary.
你可能在想到对方时还是会难过的哭出来 这完全是可以的
You might still cry at the thought of your partner and that’s OK.
即使几年之后
Even years later,
当回想起这段感情的时候仍然还有些痛
it might still hurt when a certain memory is triggered, that’s why
这也是为什么痊愈是一段复杂的过程的原因
healing is such a complicated process.
这从来就不是一帆风顺的 不总是随我们所愿
It’s never straightforward, never what we want,
但是一旦我们意识到
but once we’ve begun to recognize that
这不会是永远的 你就已经在向前看了
it’s not going to be forever, you’re alreadymoving on.
7:你准备好接受你不想听到的事
7.You’re ready to hear things you might not want to hear.
放手是什么意思呢?
What does it mean to let go?
这多数情况下指敞开心胸
A lot of it comes down to openness.
能意识到失落 但是不让它消耗你的精力
Being aware of the loss but not letting
听这些事情会让你受伤
it consume you and hearing things that will hurt
但是是必要的
but are necessary.
真相不会总是和善的 容易的 便利的
The truth isn’t always kind, easy or convenient,
但是如何对待它,最终是我们的选择
but how we welcome it, that is ultimately always our choice.
所以问问你自己 你准备好结束这段关系了吗?
So ask yourself, are you ready for closureyet?
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从一段失败的感情中走出来,看看你是否已经准备好了。

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