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Do you have these seven signs of emotional intelligence?
你有这情商的七种标志吗？
We all know what an IQ is,
我们都知道IQ是什么
and that most of us fall within the average range.
而且大多数人都在平均范围内
We use names like smart, intelligent, dumb, idiot and stupid
当我们说起智商水平时
when talking about a person’s level of intelligence.
用聪明 哑巴 笨蛋 白痴
What most people don’t know is that
然而大多数人不知道的是
we also possess an EQ or EI,
我们也有EQ或者EI
which is our level of emotional intelligence.
这就是我们的情商
Emotional intelligence is difficult to measure in numbers.
情商很难用数字来衡量
Because it is that thing inside us that
因为它在我们体内
recognizes emotions in ourselves and others,
用来表示我们自己和他人的情绪状态
then guide us to respond.
引导我们的反应
Understanding emotions may seem unimportant or trivial.
了解情绪看起来似乎并不重要
But in fact, it is the opposite.
但事实上正好相反
It is widely believed by experts
专家们普遍认为
that a person’s level of emotional intelligence may be
一个人的情商水平
a better predictor of success and overall happiness than their IQ.
比他们的智商更能使他们走上快乐成功之路
What is emotional intelligence?
什么是情商呢？
Having a high level of emotional intelligence means
有高情商意味着
that you can accurately express your feelings
你可以准确地表达你的感情
and take responsibility for them.
并且管理好它们
People often say things like
人们经常说
“you hurt my feelings” and “you shouldn’t have”
“你伤到我了”
which puts blame on the other person for the way you feel.
这就是你因为自己的情绪而怪罪到别人头上
A person with high E.I. realizes the feeling belongs to him,
高情商的人认识到自己的感情
and responds with statements such as “I was hurt by that.”
并做出类似“我被伤到了”的回应
Being emotionally intelligent means that you can identify
有情商意味着你不仅可以识别
and manage not only your own emotions,
和管理你的情绪
but the emotions of others too.
对于别人的情绪也是如此
It means you have awareness of your own feelings
它意味着你了解你的情绪
and are able to balance emotion and reason.
并且可以平衡情绪和缘由的关系
You can recognize feelings and emotion in others
你还可以分辨出其他人的情绪状态
and show empathy and compassion,
并且
which is a crucial part of all relationships both business and personal.
这在商业关系和私人关系中是很重要的一部分
For example, a good leader has the ability to understand
例如 一位好领导有
what motivates others and build on that motivation.
激励下属的能力
Seven signs you are emotionally smart.
高情商的七个标志
Although emotional intelligence is not completely understood,
即使情商不能被完全理解
it has become increasingly known that
但越来越多人知道
it plays a critical role in our quality of life.
它在我们的生活质量中起到关键的作用
A person who is emotionally intelligent generally has better physical health.
高情商的人通常身体健康
A more positive outlook fulfilling relationships
对人际关系的看法更乐观
and is more successful than those with low E.I.
也比低情商的人更成功
One, you can read nonverbal communication.
一 你可以解读别人
This means you are able to look at someone
这意思是你看着某人
and know by the look on their face,
就可以从他们的表情
the way they hold their arms, their posture or etc,
手势 姿势或其它
and tell what their mood is.
来判断他们的情绪状态
Two, you are interested in other people and their feelings and thoughts.
二 你对其他人和他们的感觉和想法都很有兴趣
When someone asks you what are you thinking about,
当有人问你你在想什么的时候
it shows their interest and understanding.
这就表现出他们的兴趣和关注
Emotionally intelligent people want to know and understand others,
聪明的人想知道和理解别人
and genuinely listen to their answers.
就会真诚地聆听他们的回答
Three, you are emotionally resilient.
三
Bad things happen in life.
人生总会有不好的事发生
You lose a good job, your significant other moves on without you.
例如 你被炒鱿鱼 你失恋了
You have setbacks and know there will be more coming.
你会经历挫折 也知道前方的路更加坎坷
However, you also know you are strong enough
但是 你也知道你足够坚强
to persevere until better times come.
可以坚持到好事到来
You do not internalize failure.
你不会被失败打倒
Four, you know where you need improvement.
四 你知道你需要改进的地方有哪些
People with low E.I. make the world believe
低情商的人会让全世界都知道
they know everything and can do anything.
他们无所不知无所不能
When something goes wrong, they put the blame anywhere but on themselves.
当事情不顺利时候 他们会责怪别人而不是自己
If you have a high E.I.,
如果你是高情商的人
you know the areas in your life that you need improvement.
你知道有哪些地方是你需要改进的
You are always learning and therefore, always growing.
你总是在学习 因此也总是在成长
Five, you are aware of your own feelings.
五 你了解自己的感受
You know how you are feeling, what caused the feeling,
你知道你的感觉是怎样的并且知道你为何会有这种感觉
and how to process and deal with the feeling.
也知道有了这种感觉 你应该怎么办
Your feelings guide you towards finding a solution rather than shutting you down.
你的感受引导你找到解决办法而不是向它臣服
Six, you avoid negative self talk.
六 避免负面的谈话
When something does not go right,
当事情不顺利的时候
even if it was by your own mistake,
即使是你一个人的问题
you do not berate and belittle yourself.
也不会特别责怪自己 贬低自己
You are able to acknowledge what went wrong,
你能够发现是哪里出现了问题
and explore your options for solving the problem,
并能找出解决问题的办法
then move forward and do so.
然后将问题解决
Seven, you pursue success.
七 追求成功
You have dreams and strategies to make those dreams a reality.
你有梦想 而且有办法梦想成真
You set goals and regardless of how long it takes.
你会设定目标 不管实现它会需要多长时间
You set goals, regardless of how long it takes you to meet each one.
也不管到底需要多长时间才能实现每一个目标
You deal with setbacks, adjust shortcomings
遇到挫折 你会勇敢面对 发现缺点 会及时改正
and know that the only way you will lose is if you quit.
你知道只要你不放弃 就永远不会失败
How many of these qualities do you possess?
这些优秀的品质你具备多少
The good news is, that unlike brain intelligence or IQ,
情商和智商不同的是
emotional intelligence can be raised to some extent.
它在一定程度上能够自我提升 这对我们来说是个好消息
Part of our E.I. is innate.
我们的情商 一部分是先天的
Part of it, is shaped by your environment,
一部分是 由身边的环境所塑造的
and another part is our attitude.
另一部分则是由我们的态度所决定的
Are you willing to learn to understand and conquer your emotions?
你愿意学会理解并战胜自己的情绪吗
Are you interested in becoming a better problem-solver?
你对成为一个善于解决问题的人感兴趣吗
Do you want to achieve your goals?
你想要实现自己的目标吗
Developing your emotional intelligence allows you
锻炼情商有助于
the opportunity to avoid miscommunications and misunderstandings.
避免沟通中信息的错误传递
It deepens your relationships
它拓展了你的人际关系
and helps you balance work, home, and fun in a meaningful way.
帮助你更好地平衡工作 家庭和娱乐
Remember, the biggest determinant of success is measured by EQ not IQ.
记住 成功最主要的决定因素是情商而不是智商
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