Do you have these seven signs of emotional intelligence?
We all know what an IQ is,
and that most of us fall within the average range.
We use names like smart, intelligent, dumb, idiot and stupid
when talking about a person’s level of intelligence.
用聪明 哑巴 笨蛋 白痴
What most people don’t know is that
we also possess an EQ or EI,
which is our level of emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is difficult to measure in numbers.
Because it is that thing inside us that
recognizes emotions in ourselves and others,
then guide us to respond.
Understanding emotions may seem unimportant or trivial.
But in fact, it is the opposite.
It is widely believed by experts
that a person’s level of emotional intelligence may be
a better predictor of success and overall happiness than their IQ.
What is emotional intelligence?
Having a high level of emotional intelligence means
that you can accurately express your feelings
and take responsibility for them.
People often say things like
“you hurt my feelings” and “you shouldn’t have”
which puts blame on the other person for the way you feel.
A person with high E.I. realizes the feeling belongs to him,
and responds with statements such as “I was hurt by that.”
Being emotionally intelligent means that you can identify
and manage not only your own emotions,
but the emotions of others too.
It means you have awareness of your own feelings
and are able to balance emotion and reason.
You can recognize feelings and emotion in others
and show empathy and compassion,
which is a crucial part of all relationships both business and personal.
For example, a good leader has the ability to understand
what motivates others and build on that motivation.
Seven signs you are emotionally smart.
Although emotional intelligence is not completely understood,
it has become increasingly known that
it plays a critical role in our quality of life.
A person who is emotionally intelligent generally has better physical health.
A more positive outlook fulfilling relationships
and is more successful than those with low E.I.
One, you can read nonverbal communication.
This means you are able to look at someone
and know by the look on their face,
the way they hold their arms, their posture or etc,
and tell what their mood is.
Two, you are interested in other people and their feelings and thoughts.
When someone asks you what are you thinking about,
it shows their interest and understanding.
Emotionally intelligent people want to know and understand others,
and genuinely listen to their answers.
Three, you are emotionally resilient.
Bad things happen in life.
You lose a good job, your significant other moves on without you.
例如 你被炒鱿鱼 你失恋了
You have setbacks and know there will be more coming.
However, you also know you are strong enough
to persevere until better times come.
You do not internalize failure.
Four, you know where you need improvement.
People with low E.I. make the world believe
they know everything and can do anything.
When something goes wrong, they put the blame anywhere but on themselves.
If you have a high E.I.,
you know the areas in your life that you need improvement.
You are always learning and therefore, always growing.
Five, you are aware of your own feelings.
You know how you are feeling, what caused the feeling,
and how to process and deal with the feeling.
Your feelings guide you towards finding a solution rather than shutting you down.
Six, you avoid negative self talk.
When something does not go right,
even if it was by your own mistake,
you do not berate and belittle yourself.
You are able to acknowledge what went wrong,
and explore your options for solving the problem,
then move forward and do so.
Seven, you pursue success.
You have dreams and strategies to make those dreams a reality.
You set goals and regardless of how long it takes.
You set goals, regardless of how long it takes you to meet each one.
You deal with setbacks, adjust shortcomings
遇到挫折 你会勇敢面对 发现缺点 会及时改正
and know that the only way you will lose is if you quit.
How many of these qualities do you possess?
The good news is, that unlike brain intelligence or IQ,
emotional intelligence can be raised to some extent.
Part of our E.I. is innate.
Part of it, is shaped by your environment,
and another part is our attitude.
Are you willing to learn to understand and conquer your emotions?
Are you interested in becoming a better problem-solver?
Do you want to achieve your goals?
Developing your emotional intelligence allows you
the opportunity to avoid miscommunications and misunderstandings.
It deepens your relationships
and helps you balance work, home, and fun in a meaningful way.
Remember, the biggest determinant of success is measured by EQ not IQ.
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