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六种不健康的母女关系

6 Unhealthy Mother-Daughter Relationships

Asian-American writer Amy Tan
亚裔美国作家艾米·谭
had a difficult relationship with her mother Daisy.
和她的母亲黛西关系很不好
At one point,
有一次
Daisy held a knife to her throat
她俩为艾米的新男友争吵时
and threatened to kill her
黛西把刀架在她的脖子上
when the two of them argued over Amy’s new boyfriend.
威胁要杀了艾米
Daisy would often threaten to kill herself and
黛西经常会威胁着要自杀
attempted suicide once, but failed,
并且曾经试图自杀过 但失败了
hoping to join her mother
因为艾米想要
who died committing suicide.
像她的母亲一样自杀
Amy Tan grew up with a neurotic,
艾米·谭长大后得了精神病
toxic relationship with her mother
与母亲之间的毒性关系
that was life-threatening and traumatizing.
使艾米有威胁生命和精神创伤的感觉
What scary about toxic relationships
毒性关系的可怕之处在于
is that the signs aren’t always clearly visible.
并没有明晰可见的标志
In fact, some girls don’t realize
事实上 一些女孩没有意识到
they have an unhealthy bond with their mothers
她们与母亲之间有不健康的关系
until they are older or
一直持续到她们长大
in some cases when it’s too late.
或到了太晚的地步
Has there always been a subtle tension between you and your mother
你是否总和母亲有种微妙的紧张关系
but you’re not sure why?
却不确定原因?
Do you often feel afraid of your mother?
你经常害怕你母亲吗?
Here’s six types of unhealthy mother-daughter relationships.
这是六种不健康母女关系
1.Bosom Buddies.
1. 闺密
This is when the mother is more concerned
闺密关系就是母亲更加关心
about being her daughter’s best friend,
成为女儿最好朋友
more than playing the role of a parent.
而不是扮演家长角色
The mother knows every little detail about her daughter’s life
母亲了解女儿所有的生活细节
and although she offers great emotional support,
尽管她提供了大量情感支撑
as her daughter gets older and wants to branch out
当女儿长大 想要离开母亲庇护
and do independent activities,
做些独立自主的活动的时候
the mother will continue to smother her.
母亲会继续管制她
In this type of relationship,
在这种关系类型中
the daughter rarely gets disciplined by her mother
因为女儿很少被给予正确的指导
and has a hard time building practical life skills.
所以女儿很少被母亲约束
because she wasn’t given the proper guidance.
很难锻炼出实用的生活技巧
2.Boss and Subordinate.
2. 领导和下属
This is when the mother wants to control and
这种关系就是母亲想要去控制
dominate her daughter’s life.
并主导女儿的生活
The mother is often very demanding,
母亲通常是苛刻的
rigid, close-minded
严格的 思想保守的
and expects the daughter to
希望女儿
follow her rules and expectations.
顺从她的管理 满足她的期望
She typically lacks empathy and puts pressure
母亲常缺乏同理心 给女儿施压
on her daughter to perform well.
使她表现优异
The daughter often feels
女儿经常感觉
as though she has to be perfect
她好像必须得完美
to win her mother’s approval.
才能赢得母亲的赞许
She also suffers from low self-esteem problems
她也会遭受低自尊问题的痛苦
and fears being rejected or judged harshly by others.
害怕被拒绝或者被他人严厉指责
As the daughter gets older,
当女儿长大后
she will grow resentful of her mother
她将会憎恨她的母亲
and will typically rebel
通常会变得叛逆
whether it’s done loudly or quietly.
这些叛逆行为有的明显 有的隐秘
3.Rivals.
3. 对手
In this relationship,
在这种关系里
the mother sees her daughter as a rival or threat.
母亲把女儿视为对手或威胁
Although the mother may seem as though
当母女在一起时
she’s supportive of her daughter,
虽然母亲可能
on the inside, she feels insecure about herself
看起来很支持女儿
when she’s with her.
但内心却感到不安
The mother constantly compares herself to her daughter
母亲不断地把自己与女儿对比
to see who is prettier
看看谁更漂亮
thinner, smarter and more successful,
更瘦 更聪明 更成功
rather than developing a relationship,
而不是形成一种
based on understanding and acceptance.
基于理解和接纳的关系
The daughter usually feels internally conflicted and unworthy.
通常女儿内心会感到矛盾 自卑
4.The Role-Reversal Relationship.
4. 角色颠倒的关系
This is when the mother expects her daughter
这种关系就是母亲希望女儿
to play the role of a parent
去扮演一个家长的角色
and be there to support her.
去支持母亲
This relationship is one-sided
这种关系是片面的
and the daughter feels abandoned, used and neglected.
女儿有种被抛弃 被利用 被忽视的感觉
The mother is only concerned about her own needs
母亲只在乎自己的需要
and makes sure she’s the one
并确保女儿
being nurtured by her daughter.
会给自己养老
At a young age,
在年轻时
the daughter learned that
女儿学到了
she must sacrifice herself and put others first.
她必须牺牲自己 把其他人放在首位
As she gets older,
当她长大后
she often suffers from low self-esteem issues
她经常遭受低自尊问题的困扰
and has a hard time saying no
很难对别人说不
and setting healthy boundaries for herself.
为自己建立的健康边界
5.The Ghost.
5. 幽灵
In this relationship,
在这种关系中
the mother can either be emotionally
母亲要么在情绪上
and or physically unavailable to her daughter.
要么在身体上很难接近女儿
If the mother is emotionally unavailable,
如果母亲是情绪上难以接近
she may choose to withdraw or withhold love
她可能会停止或拒绝给女儿爱
from her daughter and give it to her other child.
并且把爱给自己的其他孩子
If the mother decides to ghost,
如果母亲决定进入这种“幽灵”关系
she leaves and gives her daughter up
她会逃离并要么把女儿送给
to either her other biological parent
她的亲生父亲
or another guardian who can take care of her.
要么送给能照顾她的其他监护人
The daughter usually doesn’t receive an explanation
女儿通常并没有收到母亲离开
or closure for why her mother left
的解释或者正式通知
and usually grows up with an empty void.
通常在空虚中长大
6.Good Mom/Bad Mom.
6. 好妈妈/坏妈妈
This is an erratic relationship between the mother and daughter.
这是一种母女之间不稳定的关系
The daughter never knows
女儿从不知道
whether the bad mom or good mom will show up.
是坏妈妈会出现还是好妈妈会出现
She often faces hot and cold treatment from her
她经常受到母亲忽冷忽热的待遇
and fears her mom.
害怕母亲
The mother usually acts good
当母女处于公共场合
when they are out in public
周围都是人的时候
and there are others around them.
母亲通常举止良好
She displays kind behavior,
她会展示好的行为
smiles and pretends to care for her daughter.
笑容 假装关心女儿
But when it’s just the two of them,
但是当只有她们两个人的时候
the mother will show her true colors
母亲就会展示她真正的“颜色”
and acts dismissive neglectful and cold.
举止变得蔑视 忽视 冷漠
In this relationship,
在这种关系中
the mother only wants to put up a good image
母亲只有在迫不得已时
when she has to
才会想树立好形象
and fails to connect with her daughter.
但母亲并不能与女儿建立良好的关系
Which type of unhealthy mother-daughter relationship do you resonate with?
你与哪种不良母女关系有共鸣呢?
We know how hard it is to talk about toxic family dynamics
我们知道讨论毒性家庭的事情有多难受
and want to be a safe
我们想给你们一个
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安全 没有偏见的地方
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请在下方分享你的故事
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六种不健康母女关系的具体表现和行为

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