Singer John Mayer has a song called “Daughters”
that discusses the importance of fathers being there for their daughters.
Mayer wanted to emphasize the message
that daughters have to be nurtured well in their childhoods.
Because those actions will affect
the relationships they have when they become adults.
But not every girl gets the treatment they hope for.
Some of them grew up with hardships and only understood the unstable fragile love
they received from the person they called their dad.
Here’s six types of unhealthy father-daughter relationships.
No.1 The Lost Father.
The lost father is someone who is physically present in their daughter’s lives,
but abandons her emotionally.
He never praises her daughter for her accomplishments
or notices the changes that she’s going through.
As a result, daughters with a lost father
often feel confused about their self-identity
and have trouble identifying their strengths and talents.
They also typically suffer from low self-esteem issues
and usually look for the love and affection they crave in the romantic relationships.
No.2 The Abusive Father.
The abusive father often has unstable moods and
exhibits unpredictable destructive behavior.
He usually has a hard time controlling his anger
and takes his stress out on his daughter,
which results in verbal, physical or sexual abuse.
The abusive father only cares about his own needs
and fails to treat his daughter right.
Daughters of abusive fathers
often grow up with no true identity.
They are fearful, timid and
prefer not to be noticed by others.
In romantic relationships, daughters of abusive father’s
expect to be mistreated by their partners
and struggle with vulnerability and intimacy.
No.3 The Pampering Father.
The pampering father is the opposite from the abusive father
whereas the abusive father takes the pampering father gives.
He doesn’t set healthy boundaries
and treats his daughter like a princess.
Consequently, she often grows up
being manipulative and self-absorbed.
In romantic relationships, daughters of pampering fathers
usually seek to be served and
puts her needs first over their partners.
Pampering fathers have a hard time saying no
and allow their daughters to be spoiled.
They worry about being mean and controlling
and thus mistake they’re giving nature to be supportive.
When they fail to teach their daughters
to treat them with respect.
No. 4 The Toxic Father.
The toxic father creates a
codependent relationship with his daughter.
He often exercises helicopter parenting
and has a hard time letting go of his daughter
as she grows up.
Even when she’s capable of taking care of herself,
he clips her wings off.
So she can rely on him for support.
The toxic father fails to teach his daughter
the proper life skills she needs to grow.
He often domineers and makes decisions for her,
thinking he knows what’s best for her.
As a result, daughters of toxic fathers
have a hard time living successful independent lives.
No.5 The Ruined Father.
The ruined father constantly relies on
his daughter to survive.
He may suffer from an addiction, severe depression
or be unemployed and meets his daughter by his side
in order to function.
He often guilt trips his daughter
into doing favors for him,
which he’ll lead to bitterness and anger down the road
as she tries to make it out on her own
without having to look out for him.
The daughters of ruined fathers tend to be selfless
and have a hard time setting healthy boundaries with others.
Because they had to play the role of
a caretaker all their lives.
As they reach adulthood,
they may enter relationships where they end up baby
or giving their partner special treatment
without receiving the same love and attention.
No. 6 The Anguished Father.
The anguish father constantly lets his daughter down.
As a result, she reacts to his perceived faults.
failures and in differences with
rebellious behavior and unhealthy lifestyle choices,
such as eating disorders or risky sex
to demonstrate what’s bothering her.
Daughter’s of anguish fathers
take part in unhealthy choices,
hoping that their self damage
will influence their fathers to stop
or quit their own bad habits.
They are willing to hurt themselves.
Because they don’t know how to address the concerns
they have for them that will reach them.
Although daughters of anguish fathers
might feel like they are free to do as they please.
In reality, they are actually trapped
by the feeling they have towards their fathers
that are strongly expressed in
their reactions and behavior.
Which type of unhealthy father-daughter relationship
do you resonate with?
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