Love often revolves around romance and flowers and movies.
But in real life, it doesn’t end there.
Relationships take time to bloom
and it always takes two to tango.
Wandering which stage you and your partner are in?
Here are the 6 stages of a relationship.
Have you ever liked someone straights
only to be annoyed by them on the long run?
In the first stage, also known as the honeymoon phase,
things are always exciting and memorable.
Lucy Brown, a clinical professor in neurology,
has been studying the brain of activity of people in love.
She discovered that in this early stage,
when we fall in love with someone,
we tend to forgive their faults easily.
This is called the suspension of negative judgement
where our brains overlook people’s flaws.
Just when you think your partner is perfect,
your judgement will get better over time
testing your true compatibility.
2 The Wake Up Call.
This is when things get a little feisty.
Reality begins to set in
and you start to see your partner for who they really are.
Couples who get married too soon
and divorce never get pass this stage.
This is where your differences tear you more apart
instead of bringing you two closer together.
While one of you might be craving for space,
the other might want to do the chasing.
3 The Big Test.
This is the stage that requires the most work.
Couples either make it or break it
depending on how they work out their problems.
In order for their relationship to grow and prosper,
they must reach a compromise
and learn to communicate effectively.
It also helps to do new things together.
Dr. Arthur Aaron found
that partners who frequently shared new experiences
experienced more satisfaction in the relationship
than those who only shared good but familiar experiences.
Once you reach this stage,
it means you and your partner know
how to work through your differences.
Both of you win and it’s refreshing.
You no longer try to control nor change one another,
but accept each other despite your differences.
Your boundaries are respected
and the both of you feel comfortable.
In this stage, you recognize that you don’t need your partner
but rather your choosing to be with them.
This a healthy conclusion to reach
and you should be proud that you made it there.
Dr. Stephen Stassi highlights the importance
for commitment and privacy to coexist.
People who value their privacy, such as introverts,
may view connection as a threat to their required alone time.
To maintain a balance between the two,
talk to your partner about
how many people are allowed in your household
and ways to regulate your closeness.
6 Deep Attachment.
In this final stage,
you and your partner work outside your relationship
and begin to integrate it with the world.
You might decide to work on a project together
to make a difference
whether that means starting a business or working with charities.
Contrary to the first stage where the passion is intense.
Professor Elaine Hatfield suggests that longer-term relationships
focus more on developing a strong companionship.
When you and your partner reach deep attachment,
you allow your union to flourish in social activities
whether it’s humanitarian- or hobby-based.
Although these stages are all labeled in a linear fashion
that does not mean that
you and your partner will experience them the same.
Some couples may revisit stages for more grow.
The point of illustrating these stages is
so that we can help you and your partner
reach ultimate love together.
We wish you guys the best of luck.
Which stage are you and your partner in?
What are some challenges you’re going through?
Is your partner imaginary?
Please share your thoughts with us below.
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