What’s worse than knowing someone
no longer loves you?
It’s realizing that they never loved you.
All the games, the broken promises
and lies they led you to believe.
As time goes on,
you’re not even mad at them anymore,
not when you’re disappointed with yourself
for being naive enough to fall for all their tricks.
It may be shocking news to you,
but to them, it’s nothing new,
not when they knew what they were doing all along.
Are you tired of being let down?
Here are 6 signs your partner is using you.
1. You’re reluctant to say no to them.
This is called manipulation
which is also known as emotional blackmailing.
Were you always afraid to turn down their requests?
Maybe it’s because you don’t want to let them down,
or they guilt trip you into doing favors for them.
Healthy relationships require both partners to
respect one another including their boundaries.
But when your partner is
constantly overstepping them,
it can make you feel
uncomfortable and disrespected.
As they tug on your heartstrings and
pressure you to make decision quickly
according to their wishes,
it put you in a place where it’s hard to say no.
2. You’re not sure what the relationship is.
Maybe the both of you
are exclusively seeing each other,
but does your partner see you guys in a relationship?
If they’re running away from commitment
and give excuses like,
let’s just see where this goes,
or titles complicate things anyway.
They aren’t likely to treat you like you are
worth being loved, cared and supported.
Do you really want to be with
someone like that anyway?
You deserve to be someone’s first choice,
not just a temporary convenience.
3. Their inconsistencies throw you off repeatedly.
Users rarely ever stick to their word
because they know you’ll keep coming back to them.
It’s a classic trick up their sleeve.
They see how much you’re willing to
tolerate their selfish behavior,
and when you finally break
and say you’ve had enough,
they apologize, tell you they’ll change and you,
他们会道歉 告诉你他们会改变 而你
like the good-hearted person you are,
you believe them.
4. They are different behind the scenes.
Dr. Susan Whitburn states
that when someone loves you
they boost your self-esteem and sense of identity.
But when your partner is just using you,
they care more about their own needs being met.
When you go out in public,
they might act affectionate
because you’re more of a trophy to them than a lover.
Without an audience though, behind the scenes,
you’ll start to get the impression
that they never cared about you
or perhaps it’s the exact opposite.
They’re only affectionate with you in private
because they don’t want others to think
there’s anything serious between you two.
5. They avoid the heavy conversations.
You can’t have love without letting your guard down.
If your partner refuses to be vulnerable with you,
it indicates that they’re keeping you at arm’s length.
Although this isn’t always the case
like trauma being one factor.
If you find your partner has no problem being
open with others
but doesn’t do the same with you,
it doesn’t give you the full opportunity
to get close to them.
It’s not necessarily about what you’re doing wrong
or whether you’re good enough.
If you’re putting your heart out,
but they shrug off the intimate conversations,
then are they really even there?
6. You’re doing the majority of the work.
Balance is important for relationship to sustain,
but go from one extreme to the other
and you’ll find yourself in a ship in sink.
There’s only so much you can do
until you run empty-handed.
Psychologist Patricia Pape states
some guys are very slick,
they know how to groom women
know how to manipulate them,
and no matter how bright she is,
she freezes and takes on all the shame,
the responsibility for what’s happening.
If your partner is all play and no compromise,
it’ll only break your heart more
when you stick around long enough
to tolerate their excuses.
What’s stopping you from finding a healthy partner?
Think you might be in a toxic relationship?
Check out our video here for the signs.
Remember it doesn’t only
have to be a romantic relationship,
perhaps it’s your employer
or your friends that are using you too.
Just watch out and be careful.
Thanks so much for watching!
What’s worse than knowing someone