– Hey, what’s going on, guys?
So on this channel, in the past,
we have done several book recommendation videos.
I enjoy doing these things.
I know you guys really like them.
So today, we’re going to do another one
that’s gonna be six books thatchanged my life personally. Now,
these six books aren’t gon na be books
that I think are the best reads in the world,
but they are books thathad at least one idea,
but in most cases more,
that actually changed the trajectory of my life
or the way that I act or think on a daily basis.
And as you can see fromthis stack of books here,
there are only three print books
and one iPad sitting on top of the stack
because I do own some of these digitally. So,
with that being said,let’s get into my list here,
starting with one of thebooks that I own digitally,
尼克·温特的《The Motivation Hacker》
which is The Motivation Hacker by an author named Nick Winter.
So this is probably the book on my list
that is the least well known, but it
had a huge impact on my life.
One of the main concepts thatI remember from that book
was the idea of success spirals.
This is a term that encapsulates one
of the fundamental truths in habit building,
which is that you have to start small before you can do something big.
And a lot of people don’t understand this.
They make New Year’s resolutions
like I’m gon na work out every single day from now until infinity.
And what Nick Winter saysto do in the book instead
is to start with a goal that you can track,
that doesn’t demand absolute perfection,
and that is at your level. But,
to be honest, the part of that book
that really changed my life was the part that talks about
a concept called pre-commitment and the examples from his own life
on how he used it to achievesome pretty big goals. Essentially,
the idea of pre-commitment means that you set up consequences that are gonna happen
if you fail to do something that you set out to do.
And one of my favoriteYouTubers, Boyinaband,
calls this a threat bet,
which I think is a fantastic name of the concept.
In the book, the author talks about two different goals
that he was having a lot of trouble achieving.
One was skydiving, becausehe was very afraid to do it,
and the other one, ironically,was finishing the book,
《The Motivation Hacker》这本书
The Motivation Hacker, itself.
So what he did to achieve both of those goals was
that he set up those threat bets.
He used a tool called Beeminder,
which is a habit tracker that actually has you bet money,
which we’d pay to the company
if you fail to be consistent on your habits.
And he went hard corewith his Beeminder goals.
He took half of his wealth for each goal.
I think he had $14,000to his name at the time,
so he bet $7,000 that hewould write a certain amount
every single day for the book,
and he also bet $ 7,000 that he would go skydiving.
And wouldn’t you know it,
he both went skydiving and finished the book
and did not lose $14,000.
And that is the thing thatreally changed my life.
I read about Beeminder and I told myself that is
what I am going to use to take my work professionally.
Because up until then, I hadsort of viewed my business
and my blog, College Info Geek,
as sort of like a side project.
I wasn’t being very disciplined about it and,
as a result, my business had kind of plateaued
for about a year and a half.
So after I read that book, I went and I signed up for Beeminder
and I told myself I was
going to put out one blog post
and one podcast episode every single week, otherwise,
I was going tolose money on Beeminder. And,
as a result, my businessactually started to grow.
Wouldn’t you know it?
Putting consistent effort on a day-to-day basis actually causes things
to happen, and the threat of losing money was
the catalyst for that change in my life.
All right, book number two on my list,
which is a much, much more famous book,
is The 7 Habits of HighlyEffective People by Stephen Covey.
Now this is probably the most well-known
personal development book in the history of personaldevelopment books,
and a lot of you have probably read it, but
I do want to share a couple lessons that really did
make a pretty big impact on my life.
First and foremost was the book’s advice
to seek first to understand and then to be understood.
A lot of us have this problem where, when we
are listening to somebody, we’re really just kind of
formulating our response and waiting to give it rather than really
trying to understand what the other person is saying.
And the obvious problem here is that,
when both people in a conversation are doing this,
neither one is reallyunderstanding the other.
They’re just kind of trying to look cool or to express their ideas.
So when you reallyinternalize this concept,
you start to tap
into what other people are feeling and thinking and then real communication happens.
And the other big lesson in that book,
for me, came from an account of Covey’s conversation
with somebody who washaving relationship trouble.
He didn’t know
if he wanted to divorce his wife or not
because he felt like the spark had gone out of the relationship,
and I remember Covey telling him something very simple,
to love her.
爱是一个动词 一种行动 并非一种情感
Love as a verb, as anaction, not as a feeling. Now,
I listened to this book when I was probably
18 years old, so this was kind of a big
revelation to me because, up until then, society and
社会 我认识的每个人 还有媒体
just basically everyone I knew and the media
had sort of convinced me thatlove was like this feeling
that you would have automatically,
like you just kinda had to find it and then it would be there forever.
But the opposite is true.
Love is a verb.
It’s something that youhave to put work into
and it is often difficult.
And I honestly think
that that concept and my internalization of that concept
is one of the reasons whyI’m still with my girlfriend,
why I’ve been with herfor over five years,
because I’ve realized that,when the going gets tough,
you have to, as a verb,love the other person.
It’s hard, but you have to do it.
And yes, sometimes thatfeeling is going to be there
and it is gon na feel like something that’s just in
you and it’s gon na be with you forever, but
you can’t rely on that always being the case.
All right, book number three
on my list is The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss.
Now this is the book that probably changed
my professional life more than any other. See,
this was the very first book
that really and truly showed me that you could build systems
which enable your businessto profit and make money
even while you’re notphysically putting effort in.
Before I read this book,
我是个大一学生 在一个自由职业的网站上 有一份设计的兼职
I was a freshman in college that had a freelance web design business on the side.
So every dollar that I made was a direct product
of me putting in the hours,
and that’s kinda how Iviewed entrepreneurship.
But once I read that book,
I started to realize that I could build systems
that would allow me to essentiallymake money while I slept. Now,
building those systems and actually making money is neither as straightforward
nor as easy as it might seem in the book,
and I’m sure that Tim mentionsthat in the book itself,
but that book, more than anyother source of information,
it drove me to start treating College Info Geek more
as a business and less as a blog.
And that completely changedthe trajectory of my life.
Before College Info Geek became profitable,
my plan was to graduate college, move to Minneapolis,
and become a web developerfor a big company.
And now, I’m doingsomething that is, well,
a little bit different than that.
All right, moving on to thebooks that I own physically,
starting with number four, The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha. Now,
this book has a
lot to say on the concept of happiness
and on how to be happy on aday-to-day basis consistently,
but there is only one idea
that I want to share from this book,
and that is the dim view that it takes
on the concept of retirement.
This book taught me that the origin of our modern concept of retirement,
the idea of stopping work at age 65
and then just relaxingfor the rest of your days
originated in Germany back in 1889.
At that time,
the government introduced a program that would allow people who were 65 or older
to stop working and then the state would take care of them.
And this was meant asa way to free up jobs
for younger people. But,
as time went on, itstarted to be thought of
as the kind of goal in life.
You’d work up until 65,
and then you’d retire to a life of leisure.
But the problem is this concept
is at odds with the way that the human body and mind work.
We are built to constantly progress.
We’re built to work.
We’re built to struggle.
Life is a type of combat and that is what we are adapted for.
So this whole idea of juststopping at a certain age
很糟糕 但是这是大家都在争取的事 并且没有质疑 直到我读了这本书
is kind of awful, but it’s something that weall seem to be striving for and we don’t really question it, so until I read this book,
that was basically how I thought my career was going to go.
现在 我赞同永不退休 当然
But now, I’m committed to never retire. Sure,
I may try new things as I go on in my career.
I might maybe slow down a little bit
or try some things that don’t necessarily make money,
but I’m never going to stop learning,
I’m never going to stop progressing, and
I’m never going to stop working.
And that is actually very liberating.
All right, book number five
on my list is Pragmatic Thinking & Learning by Andy Hunt.
And I think this is actually the first real productivity book
that I ever read.
One of the most useful tidbits in the book
for me was the advice to capture insight 24/7,
which was the directinspiration for my philosophy
that I like to call Quick Capture. Essentially,
this means always having a way to
get information or ideas into a system that you
trust and that you can access later on.
For instance, when I’m taking a shower and I have
an idea that I really want to remember, I actually have
a waterproof notebook suction-cupped to the walls of my shower
so I can write down thedetails of that idea
and then, once I’m dried off,
I can take a picture of it and then
I can get it into my note-taking system.
And beyond that concept, I’m actually looking at
the back flap of the book right now, there
are about 48 different concepts in this books,
so if you are looking for a good productivity book,
I do recommend giving this one a read.
And that brings us to the final and, easily,
the most dense book on this list,
Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.
This book, more than anyother that I’ve read,
gave me a detailed knowledgeof heuristics and biases,
the mental shortcuts thatour brains naturally take
to make decisions, but that can also lead to faulty thinking.
Now there are a lot of these to learn about,
but to give you one example,
we often tend to confuse what is probable
with what is plausible.
For instance, in one experiment that Kahneman did,
people were told about a fictitious person called Linda,
who majored in philosophyand who’s also very concerned
with issues of socialjustice and discrimination.
And then they were askedwhat was more probable,
that Linda was a bank teller or
that Linda was a bank teller
and heavily involved inthe feminist movement. Now,
if you think about this objectively,
the second answer actually contains
the first answer within it.
Linda is a bank teller in either case,
but in the second case, she
is also involved in the feminist movement. Therefore,
the firstcase is more probable.
But more people actually thought that the second case was more probable.
It’s not, but it seems more plausible because it fits the narrative.
And once I learned about this along with many of the other
heuristics and biases reported on in the book, I started to
notice them cropping up in my own thinking and decision-making, and,
as a result,
I was able to catch them before they made me make bad decisions.
And because I’m able tocatch those bad decisions,
I can stop them before they happen.
I can step back and I can rethink them. Now,
an interestingsecondary effect of this book
was that it also got me interested in a much broader range of topics.
Before I read this book, I kindastuck to productivity books
and business books, but afterwards, my interests really broadened out
and I wanted to start learningabout math and science.
I read books like Bill Bryson’s A Short History of
Nearly Everything, or Sam Kean’s The Disappearing Spoon,
which is all about the periodic table and chemistry.
And as a result from from reading those books,
my general bank of knowledge really started to grow
and spread out and widen,
and I was able to make more connections
from different areas, whichallowed me to be more creative. Now,
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