This is a copy of mytax return from 2010,
just eight short years ago.
And it says that duringthe course of that year,
I made a grand total $9,226.
Contrast that to last year, 2017
where I made easily morethan 10 times that amount
and with that increase in income came some lifestyle upgrades.
Back then, I lived in a cramped dorm room
and I had to share it with another person
and beyond that, I had to share a bathroom with43 other guys in my hall,
compared to today, where I’ve got a two bedroom apartment
where I actually got my own bathroom,
it’s pretty fancy I know.
And I’ve got a pretty good view as well.
Also back then, I ate all of my meals in the cafeteria
or I made microwaved chicken nuggets, yes I know,
这很不健康 现如今 我差不多可以买任何我想要的东西了
those are very unhealthy, whereas today I can actually buy pretty much whatever I want,
I can cook fancy food, I can go out to eat more often.
这样看来 和之前相比 我的就餐也得到了很大的改善
So there’s been a big improvement on the dining out front as well.
When I look at my lifenow versus back then,
there is no question that things have improved across the board.
Yet in my many ways, I’m no happier now than I was back then.
我当然是快乐的 但是话又说回来 我一直都这样
I’m certainly a happyperson but then again, I always kinda have been.
So what’s the deal here?
I’ve made all this progress,I’ve put in all this work
but for what exactly?
This is the question thatdeserves a closer look.
As my experience is not at all uncommon,
in fact, it’s near universal.
In general, people do notfind themselves happier on a day to day basis
as a result of getting promoted,
making more money ormaking other life upgrades
比如 买了更大的房子 换了更好的车而更快乐
like buying a bigger houseor getting a better car.
相反 我们发现 随着生活的改善 我们的欲望 品味
Instead,we find that as our lives improve, our desires, tastes,
and expectations rise to match.
The result is a sort ofhappiness equilibrium.
This effect has been called the hedonic treadmill or hedonic adaptation.
And a lot of psychological research has gone into this concept in the recent past
but it’s definitely not a new thing.
As Saint Augustine putit,”A true saying it is,
“desire hath no rest, isinfinite in itself,
endless,and as one calls it, aperpetual rack, or horse-mill.”
That quote is over 400 years old
and honestly, we’ve probably been thinking
about this concept for as long as our brains have been capable of introspective thought.
Still,it’s easy to forgetit, to get caught up
dreaming about just howawesome life would be
if we had just a little bit more money or just a bit more space.
And of course, the modernworld is all too eager
to bolster these kinds of thoughts.
As Daniel Kahneman, thefather of behavioral economics
还是《思考, 快与慢》一书的作者 书中写到
and the author of the book Thinking Fast and Slow puts it,
“People are exposed to many messages that
encourage them to believe that a change of weight,
减肥 换香水 染发
scent, hair color,
换保险 换车 改变服饰 或其他改变
or coverage, car, clothes,or many other aspects
will produce a marketimprovement in their happiness.”
“Our research suggestsa moral and a warning.
Nothing that you focus on will make
as much difference as you think.”
But what if you actually dowant to maximize your happiness?
Or to phrase that question in a way that appeals to me more,
how do you improve your average day?
If getting a bigger house or making more
money or getting more awards and accolades won’t do it,
then what will?
Well this is the kind of question that will get you a million different kinds of answers.
Some will recommend minimalism, some will recommend different life
philosophies or religious, and some will recommend spending more time
jumping on trampolines which I hardly agree with.
But here, I simply wanna suggest five changes
that you can start making to your life
that in my experience actually do improve
the average day to day experience and make it a happier one.
First,and I think most importantly,
给自己时间 去恢复 探索 消遣
give yourself time totinker, explore, and play,
or protect that time ifyou currently have it.
One thing that a lot of people start losing as they get older is this unstructured time
where they can tinker and explore,
and this is something happened to me for sure in the past few years.
As I moved further into my career, become
more successful, made more money,
all these kinds of things, I found that my schedule
has a lot less time forthis kind of exploration.
我有太多已经安排好的事 必须要做的事 而这些
I have a lot of things pre-planned that I have to do and certainly lots of
external rewards for doing those things
but I found that I don’t feel I have the time anymore
to spend an afternoon figuring out how to set up an Arduino
or how to code something justbecause it seems interesting.
And when your entire daily schedule is pre-planned
and you feel like you’re just some sort of regimented robot,
things can start to get a little bit depressing.
So protect that time.
Actually I read an articlein QZ just the other day
saying that doctors arenow prescribing play for children,
because parents are in this mad dash
to over schedule their kids’ lives.
They get them signed up for school, and music lessons,
and sports, and all kinds of stuff
to the point wherethere’s never any moment
where the kid can just go outside and do whatever they want.
And I don’t wan na knock the good intentions of these parents,
they think that what they’re doing
is going to prepare theirchildren for the future and give them a leg up.
But as science has foundrecently, play is very important.
所以 如果你是家长 给孩子些自由时间
So if you are a parent, giveyour kid unstructured time
but even if you aren’t, protect your own.
Play isn’t something thatbenefits only children,
it also benefits adults,it’s useful at any age.
Secondly,make sure that you’restaying physically active
and make that physical activity fun.
We are built to move, weare built to exercise,
we have these bodies that are adapted for working and moving through an environment.
So if you’re constantly sitting around
不管是工作时 还是回到家 看电视剧
whether it’d be through work of coming home and watching Netflix
or playing video games at the end of the night,
you’re naturally going to start feeling less and less happy.
Now when people are told to exercise,
their brains usually go to things like running on a treadmill,
or getting a gym membership,
things that feel like an obligation.
So what I’m going to suggest
for you here is to find something that you truly enjoy doing
that’s fun but it stillgets you heart rate up.
For me right now, that’s rockclimbing and mountain biking
and I still also love going to the arcades to play DDR.
I found lots of ways to exercise
that I’m truly excited to do every single day
and that makes my day to day experience a much better one.
So you should do the same.
Alright,tip number threeis to work to minimize
things in your dailylife that you don’t like.
Instead of asking yourselfhow do I get the bigger house,
how do I get the better car?
How do I get that next thing that seems
like it’s going to improve my life exponentially?
Ask yourself, what doI have to do everyday
that kind of annoys me?
Now I can probably make an entire video
listing off examples here so I’m just going to give you one.
If you have a long commuteand bumper to bumper traffic
that you absolutely hate doing,
then how could you kind of take that out of your life
or at least make it better?
One suggestion would be to actually change the time
at which you make that commute.
A lot of people can meet during rush hour
because they wanna get up at a certain time,
they might wan na workout at home and then go to work
but what if you got up maybe an hour earlier
and then you drove to work at 6AM
when there’s nobody else on the road or maybe instead of driving to work,
you ditched the cardaltogether and biked to work.
We actually just got anoffice a couple of weeks ago
and I found that ittook me about 15 minutes to drive to work
in regular traffic but only 17 to ride my bike there
so really just a two-minute difference.
And if you factor in the time it takes me to drive
through the garage and find a parking spot,
biking is actually faster, not to mention more fun.
So whatever it is,
analyze the things that annoy you and start to look for ways
that you can either removethose things from your life
or optimize them and makethem a bit more bearable.
Tip number four is to takethe occasional big break.
This could be taking a vacation or inviting a friend to come stay with you
and doing some different activities in your own home,
but you need to break yourself out of your routine every once in a while.
And this is somethingthat I am pretty bad at.
I get a lot of things on my plate
and I feel like I don’t have time to take a vacation
or that I need to optimize travel by you know,
scheduling a bunch of business trips instead of just vacations.
But when you actually take a vacation, you get a mental reset.
And that mental reset sort of revitalizes
your brain’s ability to work effectively
and makes you overall happier.
so if you have the time,or even if you don’t feel you have the time,
find the time to take these big breaks.
They don’t have to take a lot of money,
they don’t have to involve a ton of travel,
they just need to get you out of your normal routine
and have you do something different.
Now we’ve got one more tip
that I wanna share with you here
这非常 非常重要 但揭晓之前
which is really, really important but before I share it,
I do wanna also share an observation
about something that is notgoing to make you happy.
So if you think about the hedonic treadmill,
if you think about the fact that these increases in your life,
and whatever areas they may come from
aren’t going to make you happier on a day to day basis,
then it becomes pretty clear that a lot of the reasons that we use social media for
例如 吸引更多粉丝 转发 点赞
such as growing our follower account or getting more retweets or likes,
all these things aren’t going to make you happy.
And I think this bears mentioning because the people,
the engineers, the product designers
who are behind these companiesare paid huge salaries
to design these apps in a way that makes
essentially addicting, that makes them
feel like they are going to make you happier.
But from personal experience,
I can tell you that your average day to day happiness
is not going to change when you go from two likes per tweet to 100 likes per tweet.
It really doesn’t make a difference.
So yes, use social media tobring about certain benefits,
you can make new relationships through it,
you can bolster your career through it, but do
but don’t be chasing those vanity metrics,
那些点赞 转发 关注
the likes and the retweets and the followers,
because they will not make you happy.
But what will make you happy,
which is our final tip here is face to face interaction
with other people on a daily basis.
I really wanna mention this explicitly
because a lot of people are content to have digital relationships, to IM people,
发信息 视频聊天 或一起玩游戏
to talk to people over Skypeor play games together,
and these things are all great and they can forge
good friendships but nothing replaces actually seeing people face to face
and doing things with them in real life.
Now with all this talk about the hedonic treadmill
and how all these progressions aren’t going to
necessarily improve your day to day life
in the way that you think they will,
I do think it bears mentioning
that I am not suggesting youabandon all of your goals,
变卖家产 去深山老林 当苦行僧
sell your possessions and go live in a mountain as an ascetic.
除非你愿意 我是说 那很酷
Unless you want to, I meanthat could be pretty cool.
I think Martin would wanna do it.
但是说正经的 升职加薪 住更好的房子
But seriously, the fact that increasing your income or getting a promotion at your job,
or getting a better house won’t necessarily improve your day to day happiness as much as you think it will,
doesn’t mean that these goals aren’t worthwhile.
For one, achieving those goals might lead to opening doors
that actually could lead to day to day happiness improvements.
But a more important point is this,
I believe that an integralpart of being happy
is the very process ofevolving and progressing.
人类为探索而生 为挑战极限 为不停尝试新事物而生
Humans beings are built to explore, to test their limits, to constantly try new things.
We are not happy being stagnant.
As Ray Dalio put it,”Evolving is life’s greatest “accomplishment and its greatest reward.”
Now one area whereprogression and evolution
tend to bring pretty quickhappiness improvements
is in creative expression.
事实上 想到怎样拍出很酷的东西时 我会特别高兴
In fact, I find that I’m much happier when I figure out how to, say,film something really cool
like this slow mo shot orlearn a new editing technique.
And the great thing is these improvements in creative expression
tend to come a lot more frequently than big career jumps.
So if you wanna furtherimprove your average day, find a way to get creative.
你可以像我一样 做做视频 或玩玩音乐
You could do it the way that I do it through making videos, or playing music,
or the way that my best friend Martin does it
through macro photography or in many other fields out there
that you probably haven’t discovered yet.
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它的课程非常好上手 大多都有 一个示例项目 非常简单
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风景拍摄 人像拍摄 但所有这些
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光圈 闪光灯 曝光 快门速度
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它的费用 跟订阅Netflix差不多 非常值得一试
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