Today we’re gonna be talking about a subject near and dear to my heart.
That subject is 50 shape…
This week we’re gonna be talking about books.
Now I want to give you a list of my recommendations.
And since it’s the new year, we always say new year, new you.
I want to come up with a theme around that.
This list will not only serve as a foundation for you to understand yourself better, but also those around you.
Ever since medical school, I’ve realized I’m a better auditory learner.
I can be multitasking and still taking all the points that I’m listening to.
In fact, I told you this before. I used to stream all of my lectures multiple times instead of sitting and reading the notes.
Now, my go-to way to get these audiobooks is through Audible.
In fact, Audible is the sponsor to this video and I’ll be
giving you guys a 30-day free trial if you stay tuned to the end of this video.
Alright. Let’s jump right into it.
I’m gonna be talking about five books that I think will make you a better all-around you.
What Everybody is Saying by Joe Navarro.
Now I love the catchy title in this book.
What Everybody is Saying.
Oh, okay. I see what you did there.
This is a book covering human body language.
But I think this is very important because most of human communication is actually nonverbal.
Joe Navarro is actually an ex-FBI agent
and he talks about all these unique tips
that you can use to read people from across the room or even someone you’re interacting with,
even the smallest body parts, eyelids, cheeks, fingers.
眼皮 脸颊 手指等身体部位能够透露哪些秘密
The name’s Sherlock Holmes.
When I read this book for the first time, it shocked me.
I love people watching.
I started understanding what was going on in each situation without even needing to hear what they were saying.
The entire body gives us a better picture than just the face
and I’ll use an example from the book
where if you look at 2 people having a conversation and you look at the direction of where their feet are pointing.
That speaks volumes about how much they’re enjoying that conversation.
If you see 2 people sitting next to each other
and one person’s feet are pointing away from that person,
they’re ready to get out of that conversation.
Joe even goes as far as to give you simple tips
to change your posture, to allow you to express authority, to build trust with somebody else.
If you put your hands completely in your pockets,
that’s a very passive, submissive pose.
Now if you want to exemplify a little bit of confidence,
all you have to do is take your thumbs out
and that just makes your body language speak with more authority.
Influence–The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini PhD.
I love reading books on influence
and it’s not because I want to manipulate somebody.
People often think that influence carries a negative connotation.
I think it’s more manipulation that carries the connotation.
Manipulation by definition is a shrewd or devious way to influence somebody for your own advantage.
If a patient walks into my office,
they have high cholesterol, high blood pressure and they don’t exercise,
it’s my job to influence them to begin an exercise regimen.
It doesn’t mean that I’m manipulating them for my own advantage.
Now in everyday life, we not only need to be very good at influencing people at our jobs,
whether you’re a doctor influencing your patients
or a teacher influencing your students.
We also need to be aware of those who are trying to influence or manipulate us.
It’s just a matter of luring him out.
One of the concepts of this book breaks out very well, is something known as the Contrast Principle and
it’s something that salespeople utilize all the time in order to get you to spend more money.
I’m a salesperson and you’re coming into the store to buy a suit.
I’ll get you committed to buying this $400 suit and then
I’ll offer you an $80 sweater, which is a pretty expensive sweater.
But it won’t look as expensive because you’ve already spent $400.
Wow. That’s messed up.
The Influential Mind by Talley Seurat.
If you want someone to understand where you’re coming from,
it’s gonna take a lot more than facts and figures.
Oh, I like that that was a good.
Most people are influenced by emotions rather than facts and figures.
You can see this right now on the news cycle.
When somebody starts talking to your primitive brain,
they do a much better job at influencing your thoughts and even your actions.
When your mind is stressed, it’s much more easily influenced and we see this
after horrible terrorist attacks, like September 11th.
It takes one person to start running in order to get hundreds to do the same.
Because in that stress state, they’re more likely to be influenced.
I think the real gemma in this book is that it teaches you
how to communicate with somebody that disagrees with you.
The way you do that is you establish a new concept.
That doesn’t necessarily disagree with their viewpoint, but does agree with yours.
Once you find that sort of common ground,
it can facilitate that conversation and allow you to exert your influence.
If I’m trying to encourage a parent to vaccinate their child and they happen to be anti-vaccine,
instead of going back and forth and arguing about the side-effects of vaccines,
I introduced a new point where we can both agree that the disease of the vaccine prevents, like measles,
is a bad disease. If the parent agrees with me,
we have a much higher likelihood of seeing eye-to-eye
and agreeing on getting a vaccination for their child.
Public Speaking for Success by Dale Carnegie.
We all need to improve how we speak in public to be an effective communicator to share your story,
to influence people, to be a better person yourself.
分享经历 影响他人 成为更好的自己
You need to be able to be a better public speaker.
Dale Carnegie gives you some really simple steps that anyone can follow in order to be a better public speaker.
书中给出非常简单明确的步骤 每个人都能遵照 成为更好的演讲者
One of those steps that I take too hard and use in all of
my speeches is the idea of verbalizing your speech or your talk before even doing it.
That way your brain can recite the information get used
to saying it, you’ll probably stumble and that’s okay.
Because you’re practicing.
But you have to practice. It talks about really great speakers how they presented their speeches,
what words they use,
why certain speeches were more effective than others
and that really goes a long way in order for you to communicate your ideas.
Flow. The psychology of optimal experience
by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi.
Even though this book is called the Psychology of Optimal Experience,
it’s basically a book about happiness.
This is an evolving field of psychology
known as Positive Psychology and this is one of the first
books I’ve read on the subject and
I’ve become obsessed.
In medicine, we always look at the negative symptoms
we talk about depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder.
But positive psychology focuses on the positive aspects of life.
What is flow?
When you’re playing basketball, when you’re rock
climbing, when you’re playing an instrument,
you’re putting in a lot of effort and generally
for human survival sake at least, when we put an effort
it’s an done so in order to get something in return,
whether that’s financial return, sexual return.
That feeling you feel when you’re climbing a mountain,
playing an instrument, playing basketball, it’s called Flow.
It’s a very self-fulfilling authentic happiness that you feel.
When people look at my Instagram or YouTube channels,
they always comment on how happy I look and they say that
they don’t believe that I’m always so happy or
that they want to know how I’m always so happy.
I think flow is a great reason of why I’m happy.
Flow explains that in order to feel happiness to get in
that intrinsic joy in life, you constantly need to set these
little achievable and meaningful goals for yourself,
whether we’re talking about cleaning the house in a certain amount of time or
reading a certain amount of books in a given year.
A great paradox that this book addresses is
that we don’t spend our free time well.
Most people can’t wait to leave work.
They can’t wait to retire.
But when they do, they actually become more unhappy,
more anxiety sets in.
When you are not activating your mind to reach goals
and set challenges for yourself,
like you are every time you’re at work,
your mind fills that empty space with anxiety.
When you have anxiety that leads to more problems,
more depression, when you’re at work and you’re constantly
setting new goals and new obstacles for yourself.
You’re able to reach those goals and therefore feel that
reward system kicking in, boom.
There you’ll have it. Those are my five titles to help you
become an all-around better you.
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Last try. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work.
But once you’ve already spent $400 a suit, $800 doesn’t seem so much.