– Even if you are normallya happy, motivated,
and generally high-energy person,
it’s likely that at some point in your life,
you’re gonna find yourself in a rut.
You know, a period of time where you feel listless and demotivated.
You feel burnt out.
You don’t know what to do with yourself,
and you don’t really feel like doing anything.
And now you’re wondering toyourself, how did I get here?
And more importantly, howdo I get out of this rut? Well,
I have certainly gonethrough my share of ruts
and listless periods of my life before.
So what I wan na do with this video
is share a few of the things that have
helped me get myself out of them. Now,
before we get into it, I do
wan na note that I think there is a big
difference between a temporary rut and actual depression.
And if you feel like what you’re experiencing is actual depression,
well the tips in this video
may end up helping you,
but I don’t wanna come off as saying that they
are the be all, end all solutions
because this is obviously a much more complicated and serious condition.
So in addition to what I’m gonna share in this video,
I’m also gonna have a link in the description down below to
a resource written by a much more qualified person
that you might want to check out.
The first strategy that I wanna talk about here,
and something that almost never fails to lift my spirits
and get me out of the ruts
that I sometimes find myself in
is maintaining relationshipswith people who inspire you.
This is something that allof us need to be doing.
And to punctuate that,
I wanna share a passage from Ray Dalio’s excellent book Principles.
Meaningful work andmeaningful relationships
aren’t just nice thingswe choose for ourselves.
They are genetically programmed into us.
The meaningful relationships we get from social cooperation make us
让我们更开心 更健康 更有创造力
happier, healthier, and more productive.
Social cooperation is alsointegral to effective work.
It is one of the definingcharacteristics of being human.
And one thing that I wanna point out here is
that you might not be getting these types of interactions
from your normal, everyday friend group.
One thing that I realized aboutmy friend group in college
is that while I loved my friends dearly,
a lot of our interactionsbasically boiled down
to playing video gamestogether and sharing references
and inside jokes that we’dsaid a million times before.
And those kind of interactions, while fun,
and a good reminder that you’re inside your comfort zone,
你很安全 没有挑战 不能激励你
that you’re safe, are not challenging, they’re not inspiring.
They don’t really giveyou that sense of purpose
that keeps you from falling into a rut.
When all of your interactionson a day-to-day basis
are only of that kind,
it’s almost as if
you’ve locked the part ofyour brain that craves growth and challenges
into solitary confinement.
And a lot of studieshave conclusively proven
that solitary confinement,like the real kind,
has really bad psychological consequences,
can cause brain damage.
Now obviously we’re not talking about the exact same kind of thing here,
we’re just kind of making a metaphor,
but you can see how locking
that part of your brain away,
denying it those types ofrelationships and interactions
for a long time can negativelyimpact your mental state.
Now if your friend group is like mine,
it does not mean you need to go ditch your friends,
and try to find friends who are super productive all the time.
But what it does mean,
is that you need to spend at least some of your time seeking out interactions
with people who are doinginspiring and challenging things,
the kind of things that are going to
motivate you to go stretch your own capabilities.
I’m reminded of this every single time
I go to a professional conference like VidCon,
or even when I just get on Skype and chat
with one of my entrepreneur friends.
I always come away from these conversations feeling energized and brimming with new ideas.
So if you find yourself in a rut, one
way that you can start to get yourself out of
it is to seek out these types of conversations
and interactions with people who are going to challenge you and inspire you.
One way can be to go to events,
whether it’s something across the country like VidCon,
or just a local organization in your town or a club at your school,
but something even easier is just to reach out to a friend
you haven’t talked to in a while and ask them to catch up.
My friend Ben Altman, who’s one of the
guys who runs the Charisma on Command channel
actually did this to me a couple of weeks ago.
He emailed me, said hey,
we haven’t caught up in a while.
Let’s set up a time to chat on the phone.
And then last week wehad a great conversation.
And I came away from thatconversation really motivated,
and I bet he did too.
And if you wan na get the benefits of
these types of conversations on a regular basis,
then one thing you can do is set up
what I like to call a Jedi Council.
Now if you’re the kind of person who’s into reading
all those other personal development blogs and books out there, and
you listen to all the other gurus quote unquote, then you
‘re probably gon na hear this called mastermind groups.
But I think that term is kinda cringy and way too businessy
so I’m goin’ with Jedi Councils.
Basically this is a pre-planned conversation that happens maybe every week,
or every two weeks,
or maybe even every monthwith people who inspire you,
people who have the same values,
people at maybe the same level of professional development,
people with whom you canswap feedback on projects,
and stay mutually accountable.
I actually have one of these set up every single week
on Thursdays with my friends Andrew and Matt,
and these conversationsare incredibly useful
for both my business’s success, but also my level of personal motivation.
But even if you don’t wan na go as
far as setting up a Jedi Council,
I do encourage you to call a friend sometime this week,
and just have a casual conversation.
All right the next strategy we’re going to talk
about is giving yourself permission to take a break or a vacation.
And I wanna put emphasison that word permission. See,
I think one of the biggest culprits for us
falling into ruts is that we put too much on our plate,
we expect too much of ourselves,
and then we find ourselvesconstantly behind and constantly stressed.
This is incredibly common for students,
and it’s incredibly common for anybody who’s really ambitious in their career.
And when we are constantly in this state,
we are putting chronic stress on our bodies and our minds.
This can lead to burnout, and this
can lead to feeling like we really do
n’t have any motivation to do anything.
And I think the solution to this problem
is to take an actual planned break,
something that you again, giveyourself permission to do.
And this is something that I kind of ignored for a really long time.
I didn’t take a real, actual vacation
from halfway through 2016until halfway through 2018,
a period of two years.
Now during that period, Idid definitely travel a lot,
but it was always for business.
And any time a travel opportunity came up,
I would only take it
if there was a business reason for it,
be it flying out to speak at a conference,
or going to New York just a month ago to record my audiobook,
it was always business, business,
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business whenit came to travel for me.
Now I took little, small breaks,
but I never really gave myself permission to
take an extended break from my work.
So finally in May of last year, my girlfriend
hounded me enough, and we booked an actual vacation
to San Diego for about a week.
And other than one day where I took the opportunity to see
somebody out there who I really liked and looked up to,
we spent the rest of that entire time just relaxing.
I surfed, I ate at restaurants,
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I hung out and played video games, that was about it.
And when I got home from that vacation,
I was reminded of just how useful vacations could be.
Because I found myselfhaving a lot more motivation,
both for my work, but alsofor staying consistent
on my daily, healthy habits.
I found it much easier toconsistently go to the gym
and work out, to read more often,
to go for bike rides so I get my Strava miles,
and to follow a healthier diet.
And the reason for this,
which I will now take much more seriously in the future,
is that we operate oncycles of work and rest.
Just like on a daily time scale,
we need to work and have waking hours,
and then go to sleep.
On a larger time scale,
we need to have periodsof work and intensity,
and then periods of relaxation so we can basically recharge our batteries.
So if you’re in a rut andyou believe the reason
is that you’re burned out from chronic stress,
give yourself permission to take a break.
And it doesn’t have to be something big or crazy
like flying out to San Diego for a surfing vacation.
My best friend Martin, justa couple of months ago,
actually booked a hotelroom in our city of Denver for one night,
just so he could get out of his apartment
and be near a bookstorethat he really liked.
And while that was much less expensive,
and didn’t require him to take any time off of work,
he still got the same benefits.
All right, the final tactic I’m gon na talk
about here is exploring new interests.
Because whenever I find myself in a rut,
it’s usually because Ifeel like I’ve stagnated,
I haven’t learned something new in quite a while,
and I don’t really know what I’m doing with myself,
and life kinda feels boring.
But the moment that I kind of pull out a thread of interest
and let it take me somewhere,
that’s when life starts to feel exciting again.
That when I start learning new things and
I’m really, really motivated, and
just basically psyched about life in general.
So to give you guys an example for this idea,
let’s rewind the clocks about a year.
Because last July and last August,
I found myself in a pretty bad rut.
I felt listless.
I felt like I really didn’t know what to do with myself,
and it was kinda weird
because I had moved to Denver about four month prior,
and because of that I kinda had this feeling
like life was supposed to be awesome all the time
since I lived in this awesome city,
but that wasn’t the case.
Now luckily around that time,
my friend Alex flew out from Texas to visit
me with another one of his friends.
And of course we did all the cool Colorado things,
we went hiking, we went to
all the cool restaurants here in Denver.
But at one point during his visit,
we also ended up talking about something that was a big interest of his
at the time which was blockchain and cryptocurrency.
And this was an area thatI really had
no interest in myself at the time,
I had never really dabbled in it,
it seemed really complicated.
But because I wanted to have a good conversation with my friend,
I heard him out.
And after the conversation,I started getting
a little bit interested in the subject.
Not a lot, but a little bit.
And I know from experience, when I get a little bit of interest,
I should pull on that little thread,
because again, you don’thave innate passions, right?
You have little bits ofinterest that you explore,
and then maybe that turnsinto something bigger.
Interest is like a little fire, right?
You have to fuel it,
you have to feed it so it can get bigger,
until it’s eventually something that is burning very brightly.
So I went and did some reading.
I started reading some tutorial articles, some basic stuff,
and I got a little bit more interested.
And then I went and read theoriginal Bitcoin White Paper,
and got a little bit more interested.
And it didn’t even stop there.
My interest eventually grew to include cryptography as a general subject,
I went and read books like The Code Book,
which made it onto my 2017 favorite books list,
fantastic book by the way.
And I even remember
at one point trying to code my own encryption algorithm
and I wanted to see if I could do it.
Now I’m not trying to say that
the way you’re gonna get yourself out of a rut
is to go learn about Bitcoin and cryptocurrency.
That’s just one particularthing that caught my interest,
and I honestly have a lot of interests.
Later that year, my interest in cryptocurrency and cryptography eventually faded,
and then I got really into cooking.
And I spent a ton of timelearning how to cook,
learning the science of cooking,learning tons of recipes,
and that was yet another time in my life
where I was not in a rut, and
I was very motivated and very happy.
All I’m trying to say here is
that when you find yourself in a rut,
one of the likely causes of it
is that you’re stagnating, you haven’t learned something in a while.
So if a thread of interest presents itself
in any shape or form, tug on it,
no matter how thin it is, because
it might take you somewhere really interesting.
And it’s worth noting that learning new things
on a constant basis could also lead you
to a useful new skill that could even change the trajectory of your career.
Like, maybe you have an interest in learning how digital animation works. Well,
why not learn how to go out and do that yourself?
As someone who dabbles indigital animation personally,
with programs like After Effects,
I’ve learned that this is a really useful skill,
that not only helps memake higher quality videos,
but could also help me land a job if I ever needed one.
And with a skill like digital animation,
and an increasingly large number of others,
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There are a ton of great resources online that
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