When faced with a big challenge
whete potential failure seems to lurk at every corner,
maybe you’ve heard this advice before:
“Be more confident.”
And most likely, this is what you think when you hear it:
“If only it were that simple.”
But what is confidence?
相信自己是有价值的 值得的 有能力的
Take the belief that you are valuable,worthwhile, and capable,
also known as self-esteem,
add in the optimism that comes
when you are certain of your abilities,
and then empowered by these,
act courageouslyto face a challenge head-on.
This is confidence.
It turns thoughts into action.
So where does confidence even come from?
There are several factorsthat impact confidence.
One: what you’re born with,such as your genes,
which will impact things like the balance of neurochemicals in your brain.
Two: how you’re treated.
This includes the social pressuresof your environment.
And three: the part you have control over,
the choices you make, the risks you take,
and how you think about and respond to challenges and setbacks.
It isn’t possible to completely untanglethese three factors,
but the personal choices we makecertainly play a major role
in confidence development.
So, by keeping in minda few practical tips,
we do actually have the power to cultivateour own confidence.
Tip 1: a quick fix.
There are a few tricks that
can give you an immediate confidence boost in the short term.
Picture your successwhen you’re beginning a difficult task,
something as simple as listening to musicwith deep bass;
it can promote feelings of power.
You can even strike a powerful pose or give yourself a pep talk.
Tip 2:believe in your ability to improve.
If you’re looking for a long-term change,
consider the way you thinkabout your abilities and talents.
Do you think they are fixed at birth,
or that they can be developed,like a muscle?
These beliefs matter becausethey can influence how you act
when you’re faced with setbacks.
If you have a fixed mindset,
meaning that you think your talents are locked in place,
you might give up,
assuming you’ve discovered something you’re not very good at.
But if you have a growth mindset and think your abilities can improve,
a challenge is an opportunityto learn and grow.
Neuroscience supports the growth mindset.
The connections in your brain do get stronger and grow with study and practice.
It also turns out, on average,
people who have a growth mindsetare more successful,
getting better grades, and doing betterin the face of challenges.
Tip 3: practice failure.
Face it, you’re going to fail sometimes.
Everyone does. J.K. Rowling was rejected bytwelve different publishers
before one picked up”Harry Potter.”
The Wright Brothers built on history’sfailed attempts at flight,
including some of their own, before designing a successful airplane.
Studies show that those who fail regularlyand keep trying anyway
are better equipped to respondto challenges and setbacks
in a constructive way.
They learn how to trydifferent strategies,
ask others for advice, and perservere.
So, think of a challengeyou want to take on,
realize it’s not going to be easy,
accept that you’ll make mistakes,
and be kind to yourself when you do.
给自己打打气 站起来 迎接挑战
Give yourself a pep talk,stand up, and go for it.
The excitement you’ll feel knowing thatwhatever the result,
you’ll have gained greater knowledgeand understanding.
This is confidence.