We’ve all been there.
对信号 身体语言 短信感到困惑
Mixed signals, confusing body language, misinterpreted texts.
They all lead to the question––
“Do they like “LIKE” me?”
Sometimes the strongest of relationships can
blossom out of the most casual and innocent friendships.
Like personally, my boyfriend and I started office friends.
Slowly I started to notice that
he liked me more than a normal friend would.
When he actually told me that he liked me
and asked me out, I was kind of shocked.
I didn’t expect it.
But thinking back, I missed a lot of the signs.
They were clear as day right in front of me.
But because I wasn’t thinking that they could potentially
be remarks of romance I didn’t catch on.
The point of the story?
Learn from my experience.
Here’re 24 telltale signs
that someone might have a crush on you.
Whether or not you have a crush on them
is up to you.
1. They tell you that they want something more.
This is the most obvious.
Because they’re literally saying that
they want to be more than friends.
If they tell you that they like you, hello,
this is a risky situation though, because you might either want
也喜欢他 或不喜欢他 或像我一样
the same, not want the same or like me.
I’ve never thought about it
before I’ve totally taken it back.
Thankfully, this is probably one of the last signs
that will happen as long as you pay attention.
2. They hint at you to make a move.
Sometimes people are too shy to come out
and say their true feelings,
especially they’re afraid of losing a friend
from not having similar interests.
The person may try to get you to make
the first move making remarks like
“It’s almost like we are dating.” or
或“哇 好冷啊 真希望我带了外套”
“Wow, I’m cold. I wish I had a jacket.”
Personally, I was reading an article
that described girls’ personalities based of their names.
Mine read something like
the girl who all the boys are in love with.
And I told him
他的反应是这样的： 哈哈 是的 所有男孩
to which he responded. Haha. Yeah, all of them.
My blissfully ignorant self totally didn’t realize
when he said all of them.
He literally meant all of them, including himself.
It was a low-key way of him hinting,
but it went totally over my head.
3. They don’t refer to you as a friend.
When introducing you to someone,
they won’t call you just their friend.
They’ll either only call you by name or a close friend.
Also, the way they speak about you
has a lot to say.
You can normally hear the affection in their voices
they talk about you to another. So, listen for that.
4. They casually touch you.
When people who care about one another
are in close proximity like magnets
they get this urge to have physical contact with one another.
A friend who likes another friend will definitely
look for opportunities to have any contact with them.
They’ll sit real close to them on the couch
and casually put their arm around you.
Hug you any opportunity that they can get.
Touch your arm as they laugh at a joke you made.
Nudging with their elbow. Anything like that.
Physical touching might not necessarily indicate romantic intentions.
But consistent unnecessary touching could hint at a deeper desire.
5. They make excuses to be alone with you.
If you have a crush on someone,
it’s very frustrating to not have time alone with them.
So, if a friend keeps asking you to hang out,
just the two of you,
that’s a good indicator.
Maybe they’ll text you to go to see a movie,
using the excuse that everyone else they asked is busy
or asking you to come hang out with them
because they are bored.
And when you are in groups,
they’ll try to cling to you as much as possible.
6. Their eye contact with you is unusual.
Like they say, eyes are the windows into the soul.
If you find your friend constantly looking at you,
you’re staring into their eyes,
it’s probably because you have a special place in their soul.
Incredible amounts of emotion can be communicated through the eyes alone.
And sometimes a look shows more of someone’s feelings
for another than words alone.
If you catch a friend staring at you often,
it might hint at their attraction for you.
7. They ask you out.
They might not use the word “date”.
But if they’re like
“I happen to have an extra ticket to this concert
that I know you love the band. Wanna come?”
It might not be a coincidence.
Even if it’s just an impromptu call
for a Taco Bell run,
it could be romantic.
Take notice when you’re out with them
or even in with them watching Netflix
and see if it’s a date or not.
8. They ask you about your past relationships.
This could also just be a friendly question.
But it’s an indicator that they want to
know more about your romantic past.
Have you had many magnificent others before?
How did your last relationship end?
How long were your previous relationships?
This enables the friend to envision
what kind of person you’d be like in a relationship.
9. They ask about your future plans.
Ding ding ding. This is a winner.
If they’re asking you about future,
they’re trying to see if it’s possible
for them to imagine a future with you.
If you’re planning on moving across country for school
and they are staying put,
this might make them stop having hopes for a future.
But if you both have simi consistent futures idealized,
no plans of moving or traveling, for work, whatever,
then it is good to pursue that relationship.
I knew a guy who had a huge crush on this girl,
only to find out she was going to move to South African
to work for a non-profit.
So, learning that made him unkindled has flame for her,
since the future together wasn’t possible right now.
10. They get defensive
when someone else tries to make a move.
Jealousy is definitely one of the most
undeniable signs of deep desire for someone.
If they get pissed that you went on
a date with someone else,
it’s probably because they wish they were there instead.
They’re jealous because it is as though
they’ve failed their own hopes
and dreams of being the one you romantically involved with.
And they want to be in that position.
Unless someone really cares deeply for a person,
seeing a friend with someone else should not
cause jealous feelings or any other passion and emotions.
11. They get angry at the little things.
Sometimes a person who has a secret desire for love
can be under a lot of stress and tend to lash out.
Be aware that it’s not necessarily abusive
if they become snippy around couples
or other people who are in relationships,
it could be an indicator of strong feelings.
They feel like they’re trapped in a world
where they will never be with who they love and
that no one understands their pains,
so it might cause some angry reactions.
However, if they have the jealousy issues,
they might be abusive and toxic in the future.
Be on red alert for this sign and see if
you can find out if they’re a little pissed off or
12. They remember important dates.
They never have to ask when your birthday is
or if you have an important event coming up.
They remember these days because they are important to you and
want to use them as a talking point and
to prove to you how much they care.
13. Their body language screams it.
Along with eye contact,
body language is a huge indicator of love interest.
For example, women will toss their hair
or play with it and smile more than usual.
While men try to take up as much space as possible
in order to draw attention to themselves.
They might go out of their way to fix the tag
sticking out of your shirt or help you with your books,
which could be a friendly gesture,
but also a deeper connection with you.
14. They flirt with you.
Even if the person is less outgoing
and doesn’t know how to flirt,
they would definitely act a little strange around you.
Maybe you find them fixing their hair a lot
when you are around or twitching.
Because they’re trying to be as
attractive as possible in your presence.
More outgoing individuals tend to be more obviously flirtatious
but the introverts among us have subtle ways of showing interest.
If you ask you tons of questions and
keep the conversation going between you two.
Although they’re usually pretty quiet,
this shows that they’re captivated by your words.
Flirting is a way to test the waters
and see if you show any interest back.
所以 记得这一点 到时见机行事吧
So, be aware and act accordingly.
15. They talk about you a lot to their friends.
If a friend can not shut up about you
to their friends or even their family.
It means you hold a special place in their heart.
Did you hear what so-and-so, did you yesterday?
So-and-so got a new dog.
The other day I was in class and
so-and-so made this hilarious joke.
Any of these are good excuse for
bringing up a crush to their friends.
Their friends will definitely take notice and might
even say to you if the situation arise.
Did you know so-and-so is always
going on and on and on about you.
A friend who talks about you constantly show signs of
affections that go beyond the typical friendship.
16. They improve their physical appearance around you.
Maybe they’re a sloucher and tend to sit up straighter
when you’re in the room.
Maybe they put on more makeup than usual
if they know you are going to be around.
Men may nervously smooth their shirts and fix their hair
when in the presence of someone they’re attracted to.
It’s a subtle way to impress a friend
you may have feelings.
17. They hint or let you know that
they are definitely single.
Constantly talking about how you are single
is a sign that you wish you weren’t
and that the other person should fill the void.
There is no real reason to reveal this information
unless a relationship is desired.
Sometimes it’s casually mentioned but
if it’s brought up over and over,
it’s trying to drill the idea into your head.
18. They stalk you (but not in a creepy way).
We’ve all been there
staying up till the early hours of the dawn,
going through all your crushes Facebook photos
and learning about their friends,
family and what they do for fun all that.
If a friend of yours accidentally
likes a photos of yours from 2012,
you know what they were doing back there
and they definitely have feelings for you.
19. They don’t block your advances.
If you’re being affectionate towards them
either because you like them as well or something,
they will gladly accept it and embrace it.
If you lean into them on the couch,
they’ll gladly put their arm around you,
rather than scoot away.
If you reach for their hand,
they’ll take it without a second thought.
When a friend allows another to make advances on them,
it’s a sign that they have considered and
are ready and willing for a relationship to progress to something more.
20. They make the move.
When a friend is tired of waiting or
assure you maybe feel the same back.
They will throw caution to the wind and just go for it.
They’ll make moves on you
whether emotionally, physically, socially
and whether or not you accept it or support it
is up to you.
But if they actually make a move on you,
it’s obvious that they’re interested.
21. They may act more masculine or girly around you.
Sometimes girls will giggle a lot around boys,
they like batting their eyelashes and talking with a higher pitched tone.
Guys tend to act stronger and manlier
by not being afraid of anything or
talking with a lower tone or using their strength
whenever the opportunity arises.
This is from prehistoric times
when these qualities were what attracted the other sex.
This may come out some individuals but definitely
isn’t always the case these days.
22. They tell you their secrets and when they are hurting.
When a friend views you as someone they truly care for,
they’ll tell you their deepest issues
and start to rely on you to cheer them up.
If they have a crush on you,
the only thing that might make them feel better
is to have your momentary support.
by communicating various troubles and embracing one another’s pain.
This is a sign that your relationship is forming a deeper bond.
23. They expect a lot from you.
If you don’t respond to their texts,
they might get low-key offended.
Or if you haven’t hang out with them in a while,
it will get them down.
Because they like you, they want
your attention as much as humanly possible.
If you show up late or forget a promise you made them,
they’ll be very letdown.
You mean more to them than anyone else.
To them, any mistake you make
is seen as an attempt to show them
that you do not care for them as much as you do.
Watch this and treat their relationship
with just as much love and care as they do.
24. They try to make you jealous.
One of the classic ways to get with a friend
is to try and make them jealous.
Maybe they’ll talk to you about
how they find the so-and-so attractive
or talk about how they went on a date,
mainly to gauge your reaction
and see if you’re bothered by this.
If you are happy for them,
it’ll show that you aren’t jealous and
didn’t consider a relationship.
This is somewhat manipulative and confusing with the mixed signals.
But it’s usually easy to tell
if the other person is trying to make you jealous or not.
If they are at a party with another,
but are constantly looking at you,
you know where their heart really is.
In the end, it’s hard to figure out
when someone likes you more than a friend,
sometimes you’ll end up like me
totally oblivious and then surprised
when a friend tells you they did like you.
But being like me isn’t that bad.
After that happened, my mind opened up to
the possibility of liking him back.
I realized that maybe I’d accidentally
put him in a friend zone
and that I could see a future with him.
So I said why not and gave dating him a try.
and now, three years later,
it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
So hopefully, this list will help you determine
whether or not someone likes you more than a friend.
But either way it’s about how you react
that will make or break your future with this individual.
Good luck and love broadly.
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Were you ever surprised when somebody liked you?
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