19 simple psychological tricks that actually work.
There are all kinds of fancy books on neuro-linguistic programming in psychology
that can help professionals get what we want from others.
But there are also much simpler yet just as effective methods
that anyone can use on a daily basis.
Here are 19 of them.
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Never start your request with the words “Could you…”
It can cause the other person to subconsciously assume
that this is a theoretical question.
For example, avoid the questions like
“Could you call the neighbor?”
Because the answer “yes” can mean
但言外之意其实是“可以 理论上我可以做 但我不想”
“Yes, I theoretically could, but I didn’t agree to do it.”
Sure. “Could” is polite, but it’s better
to rephrase your request to
“Please, call the neighbors.”
If you wanna be sure, that will be fulfilled.
2. If you ever want to make someone feel a lot uncomfortable,
look at the middle of their forehead during the conversation.
Most people say it makes them feel like they’re under scrutiny,
which of course doesn’t exactly make a person relax.
Not sure why you’d want to do this to others.
But who knows, the situation may arise.
3. If someone you’re talking to is trying
to avoid answering your question,
just make a pause in the conversation while still keeping eye contact.
They’ll feel uncomfortable and, thus, will keeping talking.
Chances are they will give you more details about the issue you are interested in.
They may even start telling you the truth, if they were lying,
since they will believe that your silence and your look
are signs that you already know the real facts.
4. Let’s say you’ve started a new job or school.
If you want someone in the office or class to like you,
just ask them to explain something to you.
It doesn’t matter if you know the answer or not.
This will improve the other person’s overall attitude toward you.
And earn you some extra brownie point.
5. When asking a question that you want an affirmative answer to,
try to nod subtly as you make your request.
This trick is often used by restaurant employees to make guests buy more food.
And it’s pretty effective.
6. If a person is really concentrated on a task,
let’s say they are in the middle of a serious phone conversation,
you can extend your hand to them
and get anything they are holding at that moment.
They might not even remember later on,
the trick works the other way around too.
You can give them something as you’re talking to them,
and they won’t even notice!
Pretty helpful when you’re cleaning up or moving to a new house.
7. If you want somebody to do something for you,
casually say how they probably wouldn’t even be able to do it.
Most people will try really hard to prove someone wrong
when it comes to doubting their capabilities.
You can also make a small or unusual request
before getting down to the main issue.
In this case, you’ll establish a connection with the person,
so they probably won’t have to the heart to turn you down afterwords.
八 就像之前提及 你需要得到一个肯定回答
8. Just like with questions you need to get an affirmative answer to,
start nodding just a little bit during a conversation.
Interestingly enough, this will make the person
you’re talking to more attentive to you words.
and they won’t even realize why.
9. Here is a good one for negotiations.
If you like a person’s offer in general,
but would like to get better conditions,
pretend to be a little disappointed.
This method can work like a magic with a high price or low salary.
十 当闹钟响起时 坐起来
10. As soon as your alarm clock goes off, sit up,
make two fists, and yell “yeah”
as if you’re a scorer player who’s just scored a goal.
It sounds bizarre, but it really does help you
easily get out of bed, feeling more fresh.
Just try it for yourself.
And let us know down in the comment, see if it works for you.
11. If you’re always worried whether or not
you locked the door or turned your iron off,
just say some absolutely absurd phrase when you’re doing these things.
The phrase could be different every single day.
For example, you say “green rabbit” then turn the iron off.
Or “oppressive crab” and lock the door.
Next time, you start doubting whether or not you did something,
you’ll remember saying this wired phrase
and it will calm you down.
12. If a person tries to pull you into
an argument or to some kind of drama,
say something nice to them.
The old kill them with kindness trick really does stop them in their tracks.
Another technique is to keep your calm and remain silent.
There’s noting more irritating than being ignored.
However, if you’re trying to avoid an argument with your friend or partner,
try to put yourself in their shoes.
This can help you understand if there is some point
in their objections that you’re missing.
13. If you have that one lazy person on your team
that slows the whole work process down,
don’t give them tasks by saying “do this”,
It’s better to say “start with this”.
Psychologically, it’ll seem like there’s less work
because according to this phrase,
they should start with something small.
After they’ve done the first task,
use the words “Very good. Now, continue with this.”
until they end up finishing what you wanted them to do in the first place.
14. If you have to speak in public,
don’t forget to take a bottle of water with you.
First of all, you’ll need it
since your nerves will make your mouth feel like the Sahara Desert.
Plus you can take a pause to sip some water in order to
remember a part of your speech that slipped your mind.
The audience will never know.
And if you feel too anxious to speak in front of a large crowd,
admit this fact to the audience right away.
这会让你放松情绪 平静焦虑 并且会让观众
It will lighten the mood, calm the nerves and they make your listeners
feel more sympathetic since most of them can probably relate.
15. If someone is staring at you in the subway,
happens all too often, right?
那就看着他的鞋子看 别放弃 就一直盯着
Just look at their shoes, don’t give up, keep gazing.
It’ll drive them crazy!
十六 如果每次在见某个认识的人时 你都会感到紧张
16. If you seem really worried each time you see someone you know,
in the end, this person will also
start feeling worried every time they see you.
So do with that information what you will!
17. If someone has done something wrong,
but you don’t wanna sound too accusing,
change the way you can structure your sentences.
For example, instead of saying
“You didn’t close the window before you left.”
you can say “The window was left open all night.”
They will learn from their mistake
and you won’t seem like a meanie pointing a finger.
18. If you didn’t get a good night sleep,
tell yourself that you did.
I know it sounds like nonsense
but it does work one hundred percent
if you say it with meaning.
Scientists from Colorado College published
a study in the journal of Experimental Psychology.
in which they found that if you genuinely believe you’re well-rested
even if you’re not, your brain does function better.
19. People are better at remembering
what happened at the beginning and end of the day.
As for anything that wind on in between,
ehh, it’s blurring.
This is a great tip when it comes to job interviews.
Agree to a time that’s either
at the start of the work day or the end of it.
This way, the employer will remember you among all the other candidates.
Do you know any other effective tricks that can help you get what you want?
Share your experience in the comments below.
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