This is the Sunday motivational video.
Every Sunday we bring you a different type of video,
which should improve your life.
Today, we’re looking at 15 lies you’re telling yourself.
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Success begins with yourself, with your mind and
how you make the most out of your cognitive abilities.
Yet, people choose to self-sabotage themselves by
absorbing self-damaging ideas and
considering those to be truth.
If these lies become a part of yourself,
you’re already trapped and
there’s little chance of you escaping.
You’re going to go through life disappointed,
angry at the world and how unfair it is.
Without realizing that
you brought most of it upon yourself,
when you made the decision to
accept these ideas as truth.
With that said,
we wanted to bring forth a series of excuses
we’ve heard people use
to justify their lack of action or success.
In your life, it’s likely that you’ve heard them said
by others, maybe even yourself.
The goal of this video is to bring attention to them.
So you can self-check your beliefs.
Here are 15 lies you’re telling yourself that
are keeping you from being rich, successful and happy.
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NO.1 I don’t know where to start or what to do.
Truth be told you’re surrounded by opportunity.
If you pause this video right now and focus on it,
you’ll probably come up with three ideas that
excites you on the spot.
You’re under the impression that
you need a unique idea in order to be successful.
But that couldn’t be further from the truth.
An idea is worth a million dollars,
only after it’s made a million dollars.
Until then, ideas are worthless.
The difference is in the execution.
Deep within yourself, you know exactly where to start.
What you need to do to get this project
you’ve been considering going?
It’s just that you’re scared of failure and embarrassment.
You’re scared that you don’t know enough.
We will let you in on a little secret.
You don’t need to know the entire course
to take your first step.
Take a piece of paper and write down three things
you can do to get started after this video ends.
Then proceed to do those things.
NO.2 I’m special.
Oh, we love them, snowflakes.
Born under a special star meant for something great!
That’s what you think
because you’ve only lived life as yourself.
You’re the one experiencing this video right now.
You’re the one
looking at other people and observing them.
But the truth is a bunch of other people are watching
this video at the exact moment you are.
They observe and judge others the same way you do.
We’ll dare to even go further if you die today,
less than 20 people would be aware that you’re gone.
Less than twenty.
Everybody else on this planet Earth will go about their day
without any disturbance to their routine.
But here is
what we want you to take away from this point.
You are not special until you become special.
If you really want to get there,
be more than you are today,
create more, help more people, reach more people,
make a difference and the world will notice you
if you do it for a long enough or greatly enough.
Until then, put your head down and check your ego.
NO.3 I’ll start tomorrow or next Monday.
Why not right now?
Why do you have to give yourself some leeway to
do something that you know is right for you?
The best time to start was yesterday.
The second best is today.
The problem with postponing actions into the future is
it makes it easier to keep pushing them away.
This type of behavior
bleeds into all aspects of your existence and
makes you avoid taking action
that you know would improve your life.
That’s why people never quit smoking or go on a diet.
They postponed it for next Monday and then proceeded
to shove food in their face to the fullest before them.
Once they do begin, their bodies are in hyperdrive
because of the excess it’s been given
and now asks for more,
making it even more difficult to start.
By not attacking the issue head-on,
you’re just self-sabotaging yourself and you know
we made a brilliant video called 15 signs you’ll never be rich,
which you can check out by clicking in the top right corner.
In it, you’ll learn all about these self-sabotaging moves
that people make that keeps them from financial success.
NO.4 It’s my parents fault.
Cool. Let’s play the blame game with everyone and
everything else, apart from yourself.
It’s super easy and convenient to attribute your failures
to an external source.
But the truth is everyone is living their own lives
with their own struggles and battles.
You are living with yours.
Growing up, you’ve always looked at your parents as
providers, caretakers and people who historically
have been providing solutions to your problems.
As you grow older and smarter,
the parent illusion slowly fades away.
And you begin to see your parents for what they really are.
A couple of generic people
trying their best to figure shit out.
they had no idea what they were doing and
have been winging it for years.
Statistically speaking, they had it worse than you did
in terms of access to resources and opportunities.
So quit bitching and get busy.
You’re the way you are because
you’re entitled to something you haven’t earned.
You are failing to use every resource you have
at your disposal because you’re actually lazy and
plug it off like somebody else,
doesn’t want you to win, which
actually fits perfectly into the next lie you tell yourself.
NO.5 I can’t do it alone. I require guidance.
I need a mentor.
You don’t need a mentor. You need to focus.
Mentors are incredibly valuable to have.
But they behave like gasoline on an already burning fire.
You’re not even a spark yet.
Pouring gasoline on the ground doesn’t make for big bonfires
if there’s no fire to begin with.
Also, that would be a waste of gasoline if you catch our drift.
When people say they can’t do it alone,
they’re not looking for a real mentor.
They’re looking for a nanny, someone to hold their hand,
open doors for them and carry them over small ponds.
So they don’t get their shoes wet.
What you’re not realizing is that
a mentor’s job is to call you out on your bullshit and
when you think about it, we’re pretty good at that already.
So, if this was your excuse that you’ve been using,
feel free to consider the videos on our channel Your Mentor.
Now that you have guidance and
the truth about your excuses is out there,
what are you gonna do?
It’s not the mentor.
It’s the mentee that’s the problem in your case.
NO.6 I have all the time in the world.
Actually, no. You have just a few years ahead of you.
A third of that time,
you’ll be asleep unaware of what’s going on.
Another third you’ll be spending doing trivial things,
like eating, shitting what you just ate, stuck in traffic or
doing other time wasteful things.
Right off the bat,
you only have a third of the time you actually have
to make the most out of your life.
And if you factor in the impact of raising kids and illnesses,
that time for yourself is cut in half.
So now you’re left with the truth.
You don’t have that much time.
Having time is the most expensive illusion
to indulge yourself in.
Because you’re spending time you can’t afford to spend
and sooner than you think the bill comes
and you’re going to find yourself shocked.
It all went away in the blink of an eye.
Life is segmented into different chapters.
Your childhood is already over.
You’re not getting that back.
You’re probably in the middle of your current chapter
right now and before you know it, it’s going to be done.
In life, you have five such chapters,
childhood, professional growth, parenthood,
getting older and being old.
You might not realize this. But your book is not that thick.
NO.7 If I had more time, then I would do it.
Sticking with the temporal motive,
this is one of the most common lies
we tell ourselves as a whole.
We believe that there isn’t enough time in the day
to get everything done.
But how many of you actually keep track of
what you do every day hour by hour?
How many of you happen to use a calendar for the day?
You can’t improve what you don’t measure.
It’s amazing how much you can get done
with an extra hour of focused work
and you can easily do that
by cutting an hour out of your 8 to 9 hours of sleep
you get every night.
Track your day from waking up until you go to bed and
realize you waste almost half of your active hours.
There is a difference
between being busy and being productive.
NO.8 I’m too old or young for that.
Guess what? We’re living in the age of the Internet.
Here, nobody cares how old you are or what you look like.
Sure. What you look like
can be an advantage if you want to leverage it.
But it’s mostly how capable you are of delivering value
to other people.
Get that done and everything will take care of itself.
Let us debunk each side of the coin.
I’m too old for this new world
equals I’ve made up my mind that
I don’t wish to compete here
and I will live my remaining days
in the misery of my choices.
What you probably don’t understand is that with age
you get wisdom, something these kids are lacking.
You don’t need to compete with them at their game.
Leverage your skills to win at the things you know that
they can’t compete with.
I’m too young to start equals I use this
as an excuse to play video games and not feel bad.
The truth is there’s no longer an age limit.
The sooner you start, the quicker you’ll grow.
In the beginning, you’ll make a ton of mistakes,
which eventually turn into lessons.
This happens to everyone.
You’ll have a unique advantage of going through
these mistakes and lessons super early on
and by the time you’re in your mid-20s,
you’re already way ahead of everyone else.
NO.9 When I have X Y Z, I’ll be happy.
Most people find out this is a big lie
they’ve been telling themselves the hard way.
You equate happiness with the achievement of
material possessions or even status.
You think that once you get there, you’ll be happy.
Unfortunately for you, if you’re unhappy now,
you’ll not find happiness in the material things.
Money, possessions and status
make our lives more comfortable.
But they do very little for how we deal with life.
You know the cliche that says happiness comes from within.
Well, it’s a cliché for a reason.
It’s deeply rooted in the truth.
Understanding the difference between anxiety,
happiness, focus and peace of mind is greatly important
if you wish to learn how to juggle between these states.
NO.10 I’m too fucked up.
Life’s not easy to say the least.
You’ve probably been through some things that
almost broke you, that made you want to quit or
altered the way you look at life.
You’ve experienced things that would make most people
give up and label the universe as merciless and horrible,
for life is unfair and unjust
and you’d be completely right to do so.
But you haven’t quit.
Somehow, despite all that you’ve been through,
all the horrible things you’ve had to overcome,
you’re here right now watching this self-help video,
a terrible video meant to make you dig even deeper
a video that’s bringing forth all that is dark,
yet you’re still here.
You might be responsible for all the things
we mentioned in this video.
all these lies you’re telling yourself.
But at least you’re willing to be honest about them,
shine a light on each one and then fight it,
you may lose some of these battles.
But even a small win with any of them
will move yourself forward.
That is how you get better. You face the bullshit.
You deal with it and you move forward and
ALUXers, if you’ve been struggling with this for a while now,
there’s a best-selling book out there
we recommend you pick up.
It’s called Unfuck Yourself.
改善思维 调整生活 作者加里·毕晓普
Get out of your head and into your life by Gary bishop.
If you’re not willing to spend the $19 for it,
go to alux.com/freebook and sign up.
There you can get the audiobook version for free
thanks to our friends at Audible.
The book is loved by almost everyone right now.
Because it brings focus to
how you can rewire your mind to deal with life.
Go get it, ALUXers.
NO.11 I don’t have a choice. I’m stuck here.
There’s always a choice.
You’re just not ready to put the effort in to get it done.
Unless someone is holding you chained against your will,
we all have the right to pursue a better life
to pursue happiness and to roam free.
The thing that separates between those who manage to
escape this self-imposed trap is the desire to
take the leap to make the jump, to deal with the unknown.
That’s out there and with the hardships that await after the fall.
You’re scared of the impact. You’re scared of the things
you’re unfamiliar with and
that’s why you’re not willing to jump.
But those who do eventually pick themselves up
and go live better lives
than those who never jumped in the first place.
You’re not stuck. You’re just scared.
NO.12 I need to find my soulmate.
The idea that there’s this miracle person out there that
will perfectly fit into your life like the final piece in a jigsaw puzzle,
radically transforming your life is bullshit.
You don’t find a soulmate.
You grow alongside someone
who’s willing to make this journey with you
until you become better together as a team.
Everybody needs a strong partner,
someone to help them grow, to tell it like it is,
to be there when the rain is pouring and
also share the champagne, when times are good.
But that’s the paradox of soulmates.
You don’t find that person.
Because you’ve become that person in time.
Focus on yourself, begin the journey and along the way
you’ll meet people going the same way you are.
But you need to start.
Because we all have different starting lines.
NO.13 Wealth is reserved for the privileged.
Oh, not this again.
We are no longer living in the 16th century.
Wealth is accessible to anyone.
A poor kid from China
is running the largest store in the world.
People go from homeless to multimillionaires in less than
a decade and you’re enjoying this piece of content
on a device more powerful than what humanity used
to get the first people on the moon.
You are wealthy beyond imagination.
You’re just ungrateful.
We’re closing in on a historical point in time of
The Internet has made it possible for anyone to
play around in this marketplace if they decide to do so.
There is a literally nothing stopping you from
joining this incredible phenomenon.
Write a book and self-publish it,
create any type of product that’s valuable to
someone else and people will buy it.
It’s never been cheaper to join than it is right now.
In our video,
15 businesses you can start for cheap or even free.
We broke down those barriers of entry.
You can go to alux.com/sell right now
and create a store for free on Shopify
and sell your products to the world if you choose to.
The Internet has leveled the playing field for all of us.
The economy is booming.
You just need to get your head out of your behind and
take a piece for yourself.
NO.14 I know what I’m doing.
This lie comes from being ignorant.
In the best case scenario,
we have a fairly good idea of what we’re doing.
But we’re far from knowing everything there is to know.
The arrogance of not accepting a second opinion,
the arrogance of being closed-minded
is what costs people way more in the end.
The goal is to constantly be improving, to keep on learning.
We’re being molded by every single piece of information
we come into contact with.
That’s why you need to be selective,
be honest with yourself.
If you’re lacking in a certain department, ask for help.
Don’t try to play it off like it’s okay because of your ego.
NO.15 I’ve done all I could.
Take a moment to step back,
zoom out your existence and look at the person
you are from a bird’s-eye view.
If you don’t know that person,
what would you think about him or her?
About the way they go about their day,
about the way they deal with problems.
How much effort they put into their work?
If you did this exercise and
take the emotional involvement out of it,
you realize you didn’t really give it your all.
You were picky with how much efforts you put in,
with the time you invested and the choice you’ve made.
we found that in our own personal experience,
there’s always something you could have done better.
The goal is to self-analyze your performance and
improve it for the future.
The last thing you want to do is lie to yourself that
that’s all there is to you that you can’t do better.
Take for example ALUX.com /art.
For those of you unaware,
we commissioned a professional artist to
create some unique artwork for our channel,
which you can purchase if you want to.
Although it would have been a lot cheaper to create
the artwork in-house,
it wouldn’t have sufficed in terms of quality.
That’s why we
leveraged someone else’s time and talent for this.
We are constantly learning
from every project we undertake with
the sole purpose of improving.
Always be satisfied with the work you do.
But never think you can’t do better.
For those of you looking for a quick recap of the lies
people tell themselves, here it is.
People complain they don’t know where to start or what
to do despite already having the answers to both questions.
They think there are special cases.
When in reality,
we’re all trying to make the biggest impact.
Some people postpone their beginnings
while others blame their parents.
They think they need to be hand-held to success.
Some think they’ve got plenty of time to get there,
while others believe they don’t have enough hours in a day.
They tell themselves that age is what defines them and
not their ideas or work ethic.
They blame their past for their future
without realizing they have the ability to choose
to write their own destiny.
They wait for someone special to come into their lives
instead of going afterward.
They perpetuate the myth
that only the privileged can be wealthy,
despite living in the most lucrative time in history.
Finally, they let their ego stop them from improving.
They’re either too arrogant to accept advice or
too arrogant to understand they could have done better.
Out of these 15, how many are you guilty off?
Are you honest and strong enough
to share that number in the comments?
We hope you take this video for what it is, ALUXers.
A mirror to check if you’re holding yourself back.
For those of you still watching,
here’s that bonus you’ve been waiting for.
NO.16 If I ignore it, it’ll go away.
This is a tricky one. Because it’s so tempting to do so.
The problem with ignoring the dragon you’re living with
is the more you ignore it, the bigger it gets.
The dragon doesn’t go away. It’s just getting stronger
and will do more harm when it does attack.
Deal with it right now, do it now.
No matter how painful it might be and
you’ll at least have a shot at survival.
That’s why we’re also going through some changes at ALUX.
We took the time to analyze the value we’re offering
and know that we can do better.
We’ve decided to slay the dragon and rebirth ourselves
like a phoenix from our own ashes.
While we’re rebuilding the new ALUX,
we’ll be doing a special weekly series for the coming four weeks.
Be patient ALUXers and enjoy the videos,
because we can’t wait to
tell you about everything that’s coming out.
You’re gonna love it!
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