Love is one of those things that can be really hard to understand.
We can try to explain it with science,
but there will always be a magical aspect to romance.
And yet, when it comes to attraction,
there are some interesting psychological facts that might just prove useful
when you’re looking for that special someone.
1. First Impressions.
先说重要的 是的 我们在谈论第一印象
First things first and yes we’re talking about first impressions.
Studies have shown that you only have about 30 seconds
to make an impression on someone.
That’s the amount of time that takes for someone
to decide whether they like you or not.
What’s the most attractive trait?
研究表明 不是外在美 不是地位
Surprisingly? Research has shown that it’s not the physical beauty,
status or even personality.
This basically means that in order to be attractive,
you have to let people know you’re single,
or at least throw some pretty strong hints out there.
3. Mere Exposure.
Ever felt like you’re falling more and more in love
with someone, the more time you spend time with them.
That’s the magic of the mere exposure effect.
Research has found that those who spend more time with each other
are statistically more likely to find each other attractive.
4. Chameleon Effect.
People seem to be attractive to those who act just like they do.
They say opposites attract, but the opposite is also true
at least according to the chameleon effect.
This states that if you subtly copy people’s body language and mannerisms,
they are more likely to find you’re attractive.
5. Matching Hypothesis.
Ever noticed that how most couples are pretty much equally attractive?
Seeing a supermodel dating a less attractive person is uncommon.
And there’s a reason for that,
it’s called the matching hypothesis.
And it states the relationship are more likely to succeed,
if the two partners are equally attractive, more or less.
6. Pratfall Effect.
Don’t worry too much about acting like complete fool in front of crush.
Actually according to the pratfall effect, it might help.
Research has shown that people who makes mistakes are seen as more human and relatable.
7. Tell them a Secret.
Telling someone a secret is the ultimate sign of trust.
It also leads to more intimacy between two people as studies have shown.
Researchers found that there was a higher degree of attraction
when people talked about personally matters rather than small talk.
8. Body language.
Body language is so important when it comes to attraction.
Here are some common mistakes:
Hiding your torso with your arms.
Not keeping your hands visible.
Not smiling enough and not maintaining eye contact.
These are all super important when it comes to attraction.
9. Get your adrenaline pumping.
Studies have shown that when you take your date to
a theme park or do something really thrilling together,
it can increase their attraction to you.
It’s called the misattribution of arousal.
And it’s one of the human brain confuses feelings of anxiety
and thrilling sensations for genuine attraction.
10. Gain-Loss Theory.
Some loving couples started off as fierce enemies.
That’s what’s known as the gain loss theory.
Basically, the states that someone doesn’t like you at first,
but latter warms up to you.
You’re way more likely to feel attraction towards them.
11. Make friends with their friends.
Just like the Spice Girl say,
“If you want to be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.”
But there is some really truth to this.
Research has shown that if you have mutual set of friends,
you’re much more likely to be attracted to each other.
12. Have a sense of humor.
One of the most attractive traits you can have is a great sense of humor.
Taking the relationship seriously is great now,
but study has shown that probably be way more attractive to you
if you fool around and crack a few jokes.
13. Subtle touching.
从一开始 就有人告诉我们 双手不要乱动
We’ve been told from day one to keep your hands to ourselves,
why you shouldn’t touch anyone who doesn’t want to be touched.
一些微妙的事情 比如在一次交谈中 轻轻扫过他们的胳膊
Some subtle things like brushing their arm lightly during a conversation
can subconsciously create a deep sense of attraction.
Lastly, be yourself.
What’s the most important thing when it comes to attracting people?
做你自己 这听起来可能很虚伪 但100％真实
Be yourself. It may sound cheesy, but it’s 100% true.
No one will ever like you if you’re trying to be something you’re not.
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