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14个让你更能吸引伴侣的小技巧

14 Psychological Tricks to Get the Partner You Want

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爱是众多真正难以理解的事情之一
Love is one of those things that can be really hard to understand.
我们可以试着用科学诠释它
We can try to explain it with science,
但是浪漫总有神奇的一面
but there will always be a magical aspect to romance.
然而 当提起吸引力
And yet, when it comes to attraction,
有一些有趣的心理学事实
there are some interesting psychological facts that might just prove useful
也许会在你寻找某个特殊的人时起作用
when you’re looking for that special someone.
1. 第一印象
1. First Impressions.
先说重要的 是的 我们在谈论第一印象
First things first and yes we’re talking about first impressions.
研究表明 某人形成对你的第一印象
Studies have shown that you only have about 30 seconds
只需大约30秒
to make an impression on someone.
30秒就是某人决定
That’s the amount of time that takes for someone
是否喜欢你的时间长度
to decide whether they like you or not.
2. 可追求性
2. Availability.
什么是最吸引人的特质?
What’s the most attractive trait?
研究表明 不是外在美 不是地位
Surprisingly? Research has shown that it’s not the physical beauty,
甚至不是个性 惊讶吧
status or even personality.
是可追求性
It’s availability.
这主要意味着 为了能吸引人
This basically means that in order to be attractive,
你一定要让人们知道你是单身
you have to let people know you’re single,
或者至少抛出非常强烈的暗示
or at least throw some pretty strong hints out there.
3. 单纯曝光
3. Mere Exposure.
曾经有过你越爱一个人
Ever felt like you’re falling more and more in love
就越想花时间跟他在一起的经历吗?
with someone, the more time you spend time with them.
那就是单纯曝光效果的神奇之处
That’s the magic of the mere exposure effect.
研究发现那些愿为彼此花更多时间的人
Research has found that those who spend more time with each other
根据统计 他们可能会发现彼此更加有吸引力
are statistically more likely to find each other attractive.
4. 变色龙效应
4. Chameleon Effect.
人们好像被那些模仿自己行为的人吸引
People seem to be attractive to those who act just like they do.
他们说异性相吸 但至少根据变色龙效应来说
They say opposites attract, but the opposite is also true
相反的也是对的
at least according to the chameleon effect.
这表明 如果你巧妙地模仿了人们的身体语言和特殊习惯
This states that if you subtly copy people’s body language and mannerisms,
他们可能发现你很有魅力
they are more likely to find you’re attractive.
5. 匹配假说
5. Matching Hypothesis.
有没有注意过多数夫妻是如何拥有同等的吸引力的呢?
Ever noticed that how most couples are pretty much equally attractive?
看见一位超模和一个不太有魅力的人约会是很不寻常的
Seeing a supermodel dating a less attractive person is uncommon.
这是有原因的
And there’s a reason for that,
它被称之为匹配假说
it’s called the matching hypothesis.
而且它表明如果两个伙伴或多或少同样吸引人
And it states the relationship are more likely to succeed,
这个关系才可能继续
if the two partners are equally attractive, more or less.
6. 失态效应
6. Pratfall Effect.
不要过度担心在他面前 行为举止像个彻彻底底的傻瓜
Don’t worry too much about acting like complete fool in front of crush.
实际上根据失态效应 这可能对你有帮助
Actually according to the pratfall effect, it might help.
研究者表明犯错的人被视为更人性 更合情理
Research has shown that people who makes mistakes are seen as more human and relatable.
7. 告诉他们一个秘密
7. Tell them a Secret.
告诉某人一个秘密是信任的重要标志
Telling someone a secret is the ultimate sign of trust.
正如研究表明 它也导致两人更多的亲昵行为
It also leads to more intimacy between two people as studies have shown.
研究者们发现当人们谈及个人问题
Researchers found that there was a higher degree of attraction
而不是闲聊时 存在一种更高程度的吸引
when people talked about personally matters rather than small talk.
8. 身体语言
8. Body language.
当提到吸引力 身体语言很重要
Body language is so important when it comes to attraction.
这里有些常见错误:
Here are some common mistakes:
双臂环抱 遮挡住身体
Hiding your torso with your arms.
将双手背后 不让别人看到
Not keeping your hands visible.
没有充分的微笑 也不维持眼神交会
Not smiling enough and not maintaining eye contact.
当提到吸引力 身体语言都特别重要
These are all super important when it comes to attraction.
9. 让你的肾上腺素激增
9. Get your adrenaline pumping.
研究表明 当你把你的约会对象带到主题公园
Studies have shown that when you take your date to
或继续做一些很令人惊悚的事时
a theme park or do something really thrilling together,
可以增加约会对象对你的吸引力
it can increase their attraction to you.
这被称之为吊桥效应
It’s called the misattribution of arousal.
而且它是人脑混淆了真正的吸引
And it’s one of the human brain confuses feelings of anxiety
和焦虑或者恐惧的感觉
and thrilling sensations for genuine attraction.
10. 增益损失理论
10. Gain-Loss Theory.
一些恋人是从敌人开始的
Some loving couples started off as fierce enemies.
这被称之为增益损失理论
That’s what’s known as the gain loss theory.
基本上是某人一开始不喜欢你
Basically, the states that someone doesn’t like you at first,
但后来慢慢对你有兴趣了
but latter warms up to you.
你更容易被他吸引
You’re way more likely to feel attraction towards them.
11. 和他们的朋友交朋友
11. Make friends with their friends.
正如辣妹组合说的
Just like the Spice Girl say,
“如果想做我的爱人 就要和我的朋友好好相处”
“If you want to be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.”
但的确有这样的事
But there is some really truth to this.
研究表明如果你拥有彼此的朋友
Research has shown that if you have mutual set of friends,
你更有可能被彼此吸引
you’re much more likely to be attracted to each other.
12. 有点幽默感
12. Have a sense of humor.
你能有的最吸引人的性格之一是很强的幽默感
One of the most attractive traits you can have is a great sense of humor.
现在 认真维持关系很重要
Taking the relationship seriously is great now,
但研究表明如果你既游手好闲又开玩笑的话
but study has shown that probably be way more attractive to you
可能这样更加有吸引力
if you fool around and crack a few jokes.
13. 微妙的接触
13. Subtle touching.
从一开始 就有人告诉我们 双手不要乱动
We’ve been told from day one to keep your hands to ourselves,
为什么你不应接触任何一个不想被接触的人呢?
why you shouldn’t touch anyone who doesn’t want to be touched.
一些微妙的事情 比如在一次交谈中 轻轻扫过他们的胳膊
Some subtle things like brushing their arm lightly during a conversation
能潜意识地创造一种深度吸引的感觉
can subconsciously create a deep sense of attraction.
最后 做你自己
Lastly, be yourself.
当提到吸引别人 什么是最重要的呢?
What’s the most important thing when it comes to attracting people?
做你自己 这听起来可能很虚伪 但100%真实
Be yourself. It may sound cheesy, but it’s 100% true.
如果你不做自己 没有人会喜欢你
No one will ever like you if you’re trying to be something you’re not.
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下次见咯
Until next time.
玩得开心
Have a good one.

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