Everyone’s gone through this at one point in their life.
You start off as friends or co-workers
or classmates or even complete strangers.
And you slowly start to fall for them.
But the question remains, how do they feel about you?
Sometimes the signs conflict
and you’re confused whether it’s worth pursuing or not.
Everyone’s afraid of rejection.
So before you speak up and get your heart broken,
watch for the signs.
Here’re some surefire ways to tell
that your latest infatuation does not feel the same.
1. They compare you to their siblings.
They’ve told you that
you like a brother or sister to them.
Unless they’re implying some incest fetish,
it’s a good chance they’re saying
that they really do care about you and trust you.
But don’t want to do the nasty with you.
2. They aren’t responsive to your advances.
If you’ve bundled up the nerve to ask them out
他们回答是 当然 还有谁去啊？
and their responses, sure, who else is going?
That’s a low blow.
They don’t even realize that you’re asking them out.
And if they were equally interested,
they’d have no problem or qualifier with this.
This can be tricky.
Because sometimes if you’re really close with a person or
they’re just really friendly,
they may agree to go get coffee with you, or see a movie.
But only platonically,
read up on the rest of these signs
before you awkwardly reach for their hand in the dark theater,
only to be rejected
and feel embarrassed for the rest of the film.
3. They talk about their crushes
or relationships in front of you.
That’s an obvious one. But sometimes people think,
oh, it’s because they’re trying to make me jealous.
No, they’re not.
They are talking about their crushes or relationships in front of you.
because they want your opinion or want to brag to a friend.
And if they keep bringing up their significant other
back away from that.
You don’t want to be seen as the person
trying to steal your friend out of a relationship.
4. They introduce you to other people as their friend.
You’ve been getting mixed signals and
you’re not sure where you stand.
Then you go to a party with them,
run into an ex-roommate of theirs
and they introduce you as a friend.
That’s a shot to the heart, but noted it,
it’s probably not them being confused
and wondering if you are a thing.
They would have found another way to
introduce you if you was possibly a thing.
But instead, you’ve been hardcore friend-zoned.
Don’t let your pain show too much though,
their ex-roommates might be down.
5. They only invite you to group events.
You’re close, but you’ve never really
had an one-on-one time.
Then they ask you to see a new marvel movies
that just came out.
Only when they show up at your house in their mom’s minivan,
all your other friends are in it too.
Still, can’t hurt to try to
sit next to them in the dark theater.
Indulge your infatuation for a bit longer.
6. They are always busy when you want to do something.
Some people like to be discreet about rejection.
Instead of outright saying no,
they’ll say they wish they could,
but they’re busy.
They’ll always come up with excuses.
At this point, I’d even consider
if they’re worth being your friend.
Because after a while, it’s just plain rude.
7. They ask you for relationship advice.
When a friend asks for your advice on another they find attractive.
They probably don’t want to get with you.
It’s not a jealousy plot either.
It’s just that they see you as a therapist type
or the friend they can always confide in and rely on.
You’re the dependable one who will never let them down.
Not the sexy one they’re dying to get with. Sorry.
8. They only go to you when they need you.
They disappear for weeks on end
and only come to you when they need a favor.
Like they forget to do last night’s homework
or they need to borrow some cash.
Even if they seem super genuine and caring
when they come to you,
it’s abusive and manipulative.
Sorry to say.
But you are not a priority in their lives
and they’re only using you.
Get that toxicity out of your life in your heart.
9. They don’t flirt with you.
Pay attention to their body language whenever you hang out.
Do they make eye contact?
Do they laugh and smile at your jokes?
Are they not shy to sit very close to you?
If they’re not physically or subconsciously into you,
you’re probably not a romantic priority in their minds.
10.They don’t dress up when going out with you.
No matter what people will always dress to impress
especially if they’re going on a date with someone they like.
Unless this person is a punk,
they’ll probably still wear
a nice pair of black jeans and a good flannel.
But most of the time,
they’ll clean up a little for you.
If they’re in sweats and
don’t bother to do their hair or makeup,
they’re probably just thinking that you’re hanging out is buds
and there isn’t any romantic interest there.
11. They try to set you up with someone else.
So, maybe this person is oblivious
to the hints you’ve been dropping.
Or maybe they’re trying to get you to stop liking them.
But if they try to set you up with someone,
they definitely don’t have any romantic interest in you.
If they saw a potential future with you,
they wouldn’t be actively trying to get you with someone else.
Maybe the friend didn’t even consider you two more than friends.
Because you are so in the friend zone.
But still, the fact that they are
trying to hook you up with another
is a surefire way to tell
that they don’t like you like that.
Finally, they don’t show any interest at all.
You tried asking them out,
and they either were too busy or just flat-out refused.
And no means no,
and you’ve got to respect their decision.
If they continuously refuse to hang out with you
or talk to you, or have any contact with you,
don’t push it.
There’s no using in waiting for them to come around.
Don’t waste your time on someone
who won’t even look your way.
You deserve better.
And don’t take it personally.
Maybe they just got out of a bad relationship.
Or maybe they just don’t like the idea of being with someone.
And that’s fine. Not everyone is going to like you.
There’s plenty of fish in the sea.
And I can promise you that
you’ll find a good catch one day.
But this one, you might as well throw back in the ocean.
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