There is chaos in the world.
它形式不同 广泛存在于个人 家庭
It comes in a variety of shapes and sizes, an individual and family levels,
as well as from within larger corporations and even higher cosmic levels.
But why is it so pervasive?
Well, because it’s the natural state of everything.
Entropy is another more scientific sounding word for the degrading force of chaos,
which seeks to ruin anything and everything.
Now it requires effort and energy to set things right again
to put them back in order.
It is the forceful and rightful application of this effort and energy
that will help keep chaos at bay in our own personal lives.
It’ll help us live peaceful lives of purpose and meaning
and make our institutions more aligned to their duties.
Dr. Jordan Peterson lays out 12 rules
to help turn this chaos into order.
And the rest of this video is based off
Jordon Peterson’s book The 12 Rules for Life,
which seemed to be a great list of cliches
to live a happy meaningful and successful life.
Number one: stand up straight with your shoulders back.
Standing up straight does two powerful things.
It exerts dominance and confidence, and it also shows that you accept responsibility.
实际上 更多研究显示 你的外形状态
Further research has actually shown that a physical stature,
even a small muscle movement can affect your emotions.
For example, gradually making a sad face will make you feel sad.
Likewise, having a stooped posture with your head hanging low
leaves you susceptible to appearing as though you’re lower status.
Now it’s hard to accept responsibility for your actions
when you’re slouching or sprawling out on the floor.
By being upright with your shoulders back and your feet shoulder-width apart,
you exude a confidence and a willingness to take meaningful action.
It is this that separates people from animals.
Being able to recognize your own actions.
Number two: treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.
There is a famous golden rule.
That goes do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
The truth is many people are terrible at looking at themselves.
This is often seen at research from the medical field.
People don’t take their medicine.
They don’t take it at the right time.
They don’t take the right ones.
They don’t take the right amount of medicine.
However, people are usually really good at taking care of their pets.
想想看 你给他们买食物 每天喂他们
Think about it, you buy them food, you feed them every day,
you wash them when they need it.
If they start limping or puking, you take them straight to the vet.
所以 改善你自身的健康 锻炼思维 积极起来
So, improve your own health, exercise your mind, motivate yourself
and seize the greatness that is within you.
If not for yourself,
then it’d be better able to take care of those that you love.
Number three: make friends with people who want the best for you.
朋友很妙 他们会给你的生活添加激情 幽默 和快乐
Friends are amazing. They add excitement, humor and joy to your life.
Without friends, people become a shrunken shell of what they could become,
a so-called dark and twisted hermit.
Friends also act on one another, driving one another to become something different.
For example, a group of men who are friends
probably look very similar to each other,
have the same habits, whether they’re good or bad,
and laugh at the same jokes.
Because of what friends can do to us,
we have one heavy responsibility to choose friends
that will be healthy influences and not toxic ones.
Choose your friends carefully!
Number four: compare yourself to who you were yesterday,
not to who someone else is today.
Assigning value to something is entirely natural.
In a more common use of the term ‘value’,
people use it
to measure themselves against the progress of other people.
He makes more money, her children are smarter,
they drive a better car.
this is utterly an inherently self-destructive.
这样的想法 会对他人 甚至自己
These kind of beliefs will build resentment, anger and self-loathing,
not only for the other person either, but for yourself.
All of this diminish your own sense of self, your personal valuation,
and your feeling of autonomy.
Therefore, you should strive to become a better person,
even if it’s just a 1 % better each week than you were before.
If you do this continually for 71 weeks,
you’ll be twice the person that you were before.
Number 5: don’t let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.
At first glance, this rule might sound a little strange.
Suppose a child is treated in one of two ineffective parenting styles,
either permissive or authoritarian.
Permissive parents dote on their child even
when the child has done something bad or wrong.
On the other hand, authoritarian parents are at the other end of the spectrum,
layering on so many rules and iron-fisted punishments
that the child feels they have no sense of reasonable freedom.
Let me say I have no children and I’ll be the first to say
that parenting is a bloody difficult task.
然而 在这两种育儿方式下 这个孩子将
However, in both of these cases, the child will be socially stunted
and have problems fitting in to the broader society,
因为众所周知 在道德的灰色地带 有太多错综复杂
because we all know there’s a bunch of intricacies in gray moral areas.
If a child’s parents are to love them and support them
but are driven mad by certain things that the child does,
then there’s low likelihood
that anyone else in society will also tolerate this kind of behavior.
And if society doesn’t tolerate it,
it could leave the child feeling isolated and with all kinds of problems.
Basically, if you don’t like something that your child does,
neither will society.
所以 作为家长 应该制止孩子的不良做法
So it’s your job as a parent to put an end to it.
同时 为人父母 你应该明白
Also, you need to understand as a parent
your own capacity for bad and egregious behaviors.
And try to introduce your child to the world in appropriately sized doses.
再说一次 我没孩子 这个规则乃此书所荐
Again, I don’t have children but this is what the book recommends.
Number six: set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.
How is someone supposed to set themselves in perfect order?
This kind of question misses the entire point.
The idea is not that you must live perfectly,
but that you must be willing to deeply introspect
and examine your life and your choices in order to prevent future mistakes.
Basically, stop doing things that are objectively bad for you
or that you know to be a bad idea.
For example, this could be stopping smoking or maybe letting go of a toxic relationship.
Don’t rush to judge and blame others for the problems of the world.
I think this step can be summed up in one quote –
If every man sweeps his own porch, and the whole world would be clean.
Number seven: pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.
President Kennedy put it eloquently in 1962.
这个十年 我们选择登月 做其他事情
We choose to go to the moon in this decade and do other things,
not because they are easy, but because they are hard.
Nobody ever said that life was fair.
Nobody ever said that we were born to live a happy life.
Everyone will endure suffering.
And if you don’t think you’re suffering right now,
then you need to know you’re in the few of the billions of people
who have lived on this planet and suffer, and they suffer daily.
无论如何 我喜欢乔丹的这一观点 生活不该
Anyways, I like Jordan’s idea that life isn’t supposed to be happy,
it’s not supposed to be fair or fun,
it’s supposed to be meaningful.
That means you will suffer, but your suffering should be worth the life
that you live in, the life you’re leaving behind.
Again, do what is meaningful,
not what is fun or easy in the moment.
Number eight: tell the truth or at least don’t lie.
Social trust is a difficult thing to achieve and can be quickly lost
through an indiscretion or even a simple misunderstanding.
Social trust is crucial, and not just for well-functioning businesses,
but also for sustaining the forward progress of society
and the happiness of the individuals within that society.
The truth in this instance comes with a big T.
It’s a conglomeration of personal truth of experiences,
the keeping of promises and contracts,
and the accurate description andunderstanding of reality.
Here’s a little example.
You might say that 70 degrees is warm,
and I might say that 70 degrees is cold.
In a sense, we are both telling our own truths,
even if they’re different.
The important part is to tell your own truth.
Number 9: assume that the person you’re listening to
might know something that you don’t.
If what you hold to be true must be forced upon others
is that truth that you hold really that powerful?
A part of the truth is that you shouldn’t have to proclaim it,
others should find it through their own research.
If it’s so true and righteous,
then it should be able to withstand honest scrutiny,
and either emerge stronger, be modified or be cast aside as a lie.
Social progress and personal development will only happen,
If people are willing to take a deep look at themselves and realize that
while they might know a great many things
and comparison to the great sea of all human knowledge in the cosmos,
any one person knows practically nothing.
I think this can be some down into being humble,
because if you’re humble, you will always listen to other people.
Number ten: be precise in your speech.
When two or more people debate or discuss a particular topic,
precision in speech is very important.
Because without it, it becomes impossible to understand exactly what is being discussed.
For example, if there’s an argument between a couple,
it does no good to dredge up things in the past.
Instead, you should try to focus on what’s causing the problem right now.
Don’t use a paint roller when a fine brush will do.
As another example, when some people say faith,
what they mean is belief without evidence, while other people mean complete trust.
And these are two very different things
and I suppose the difference is the cause of many debates.
例如 无需任何证据 你就坚信
For example, you might have belief without evidence
that when you sit in a new chair that it will hold you up,
even if you have no evidence of the chairs weight limits
or you’ve never seen someone else sit in it.
However, you might also have complete trust that
when you sit down in the same chair that you’ve sat in for years
which again is a form of evidence that the chair will hold you up.
In both cases, the people will say that they had faith
that the chair would hold them up, but they mean different things.
Being able to describe exactly what you do not understand,
or what makes you unhappy or unproductive
is the first step in improving any situation.
If there is a problem, the first step is to clearly define it.
Number 11: do not bother children when they’re skateboarding.
As mentioned earlier, there’s two detrimental styles of parenting,
permissive and authoritarian.
Even more prevalent today is the style of helicopter parenting.
This kind of parenting is very controlling,
but it comes with a warm pleasant and a helpful face.
The helicopter parent lives a life of perpetual fear for their child that
maybe their child will eat a piece of Halloween candy that contains a razor blade.
This kind of thinking leaves children unprepared for the rough and tough environment of school,
unsure of how to navigate novel social situations,
and completely unable to take appropriate and calculated risk whenever they become adults.
Skateboarding teaches children about their own limits,
and it uses the pain of failure as a learning tool for setting boundaries,
which as you know can be modulated as your skill increases.
You can do more difficult tricks.
Skateboarding along with other physically demanding activities
teaches children how to handle their own fear and when to push against it.
Ultimately, you end up with two very different children
who will grow up into two very different adults,
risk takers and risk averse.
Each of these types of adults have their strengths.
And to put it bluntly, if your house or apartment building catches fire,
who do you want rushing in to rescue you,
one who knows how to control their fear,
or one who is dominated by it?
Number 12: pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.
The point here is not to seek out every cuddly creature on the sidewalk
or in the wild and try to give it a pat on the head,
because some cats are feral, and some dogs are service animals
that are best left alone to their work.
What this instead means is that
people need to stop what they’re doing from time to time.
And just be present in the moment and appreciate the wonderful beauty and peace
that is all around us.
You hear on the news all the time about bad things happening.
But for example, the United States has way less murders happening now
than it happened a hundred years ago.
Almost everyone has the availability to the wide knowledge of the internet.
Basically everyone has access to clean running water.
Take some time to appreciate the little things.
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