10 ways to tell you you’ve ticked off an introvert.
We all agree that we shouldn’t tick off introverts.
We’ve all done it, especially family and friends.
The problem is knowing when you’ve ticked them off.
Why should this even matter to you?
Because if you tick off an introvert, you’ve made an enemy for your life.
Although not as verbal or out there about their angry extroverts,
introverts usually are more dangerous
because they don’t wear their hearts on their sleeves.
If you are an introvert, you’ll recognize some of these signs.
If your family or friends are introverts,
you’ll remember these signs from past incidences.
Here’re 10 subtle signs that you’ve ticked off an introvert.
1. The introvert responds with one word.
谢谢 对 不 好 之类
“Thank”, “Yes”, “No”, “Fine”, etc.
Unlike extroverts who let the whole world know exactly how they are feeling,
introverts shut down and resort to one-word sentences.
One word answers help them in two ways.
1. One-word answers stop people pestering them
by asking what’s wrong if they don’t respond.
同时 这种方式也在说 离远点
and 2, one-word answers mean: go away.
You may not see it as anger,
as the introvert maybe almost emotionless
as they tell you off or fake happiness with their one-word answers.
2. The introvert doesn’t answer your calls.
This is simply known as the silent treatment.
While extroverts want to shout your ear off,
letting you know exactly how you messed up.
Introverts don’t want to deal with you at all
because you stress them out.
They want nothing to do with you
and will avoid speaking to you face-to-face or over the phone at all costs.
They cut you out of their life until they’ve forgiven you
or gotten over whatever you did to cause them to go silent on.
3. The introvert pretends everything is okay.
This is a classic one
because they use this to completely avoid the situation altogether
and combine this reaction with one-word answers.
Passive-aggressive behavior is a hallmark of introverted behavior.
Introverts would rather fake smile,
interact with you as little as possible,
get the hell away from you pronto.
They hate confrontation and would rather be polite and leave,
then save their peace and have their energy drained
from trying to resolve the matter.
4. The introvert blows up over small things.
Introverts naturally bottle up their feelings.
However even they have their limits,
you could be the unfortunate one that pushes their button.
One minute they’re fine, the next they’re screaming their lungs at you.
What’s important to know about this burst of anger is that
it’s been bubbling under the surface for A LONG TIME.
It may appear to come from nowhere
and could be over something trivial,
but this is not the case.
The introvert has reached their limit.
5. The introvert refuses help.
Typically introverts refuse help from anyone,
even well-meaning friends and family
simply because they love going it alone.
They will, however,
accept help from those who they tolerate or admire.
You’ll know for a fact that you’ve messed up with an introvert
when they refuse your help.
Even when there’s no legitimate reason for them to do so.
Even if they desperately need your help
they’ll refuse because they don’t wanna be infected by your presence.
For example, if you were to try to help an introvert to the ambulance
after they sprained their ankle,
they might shrug you off and limp to the ambulance on their own.
Some introverts use this as a way to shut down.
Their calm exterior nature hides their fiery anger inside.
They just don’t care about anything.
Things they were enthusiastic about
become all of a sudden unimportant,
and “whatever” becomes their favorite new word.
You know for sure they’re apathetic to you
if you’re the only one affected by it.
Because they don’t like being verbal,
which would lead to social interaction and having to reveal their intereactions.
Introverts will be apathetic to you in a
我生气了 或 我出了点状况
“I’m angry” or “something’s wrong”,
kind of way without saying it.
Their actions will say the complete opposite.
7. The introvert retreats into their work.
This is a sure sign introverts are majorly ticked off at you.
They are quite happy to dive into work,
drown in it, and see it as a welcome escape,
especially from someone has ticked them off.
In the workplace, for example,
you’d see it by the way they’ve canceled a lunch date with you
because they’ve got too much work to do.
At school they stopped hanging out with you
because they’ve got too much homework.
In relationships, it could be an excuse like
“I have to work late tonight”.
It’s their way of saying they don’t need you and have better things to do.
They’re just using an excuse to do so.
8. The introvert only wants to communicate by text or email.
There are introverts that avoid talking to someone they hate at all costs,
and get frustrated if they have to hear said person’s voice.
Thanks to the digital age,
communication can be kept to email and texting.
Say you call an introvert and leave a message,
they’ll respond to the message
when they could have answered the phone, but they chose not to.
They could also offer up lame excuses about why they didn’t answer the phone like
“I just got out of the shower”,
又或者 抱歉 我手机静音了
or “Sorry, my phone was on silent”.
If this happens continuously, not occasionally,
then you’ve rubbed the introvert on the wrong side.
The introvert seems to treat your pets better than you.
Introverts and animals get along better than introverts and humans at times.
Animals don’t expect much from you in the form of conversation
and are happy sitting in silence enjoying your company.
Let’s say you have a pet and your introvert friend comes over.
If they pay more attention to your pet,
avoiding eye contact with you,
or not in a bored manner about what you’re saying,
then you’ve definitely annoyed them.
They’ll even say more to your pet than you.
10. The introvert wants to be alone.
Nothing says “leave me alone”,
like an introvert isolating themselves from others.
Alone time is essential for an introvert
to recharge and release stress.
This is a tough one
because you don’t know whether the introvert wants to be alone.
Because you’ve ticked them off,
or if everything around them is ticking them off.
If you want to know for sure whether you’re the problem,
watch how they react in a group of people.
If you come on the scene and all of a sudden they want to leave,
left before you can even say hi,
then it’s you, buddy.
How is that for 10 signs you’ve ticked off an introvert?
Did you recognize some of them,
or were some new?
Share your comments below about your experiences with ticking off introverts.