10 ways to deal with a broken heart.
Moving on from a break up is a difficult process,
following the shock of initial separation
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are feelings of anger, sadness and grieve
that is often crippling and mind numbing,
The pain of a break up is so profound that
it sometimes leaves us not knowing what to do next.
Though there is no one pill medicine to soothe out to a broken heart.
There are certain ways that will help you move on and heal faster.
Here’re 10 ways to help you deal with heartbreak.
第一 不要接触 保持距离
1.Steer clear and keep distance.
After the initial shock of a breakup,
and on occasions that someone empty promise to remain friends.
It is important to remember to distance yourself from them.
No communication whatsoever,
including calls, texts and IMs.
Even contact with the same friends or families should be avoided.
It doesn’t mean that you have to avoid them forever.
But it is important to keep away for a while
in order for you to heal your heart and move on.
2. Surround yourself with support.
When hurting, it is easy to distance yourself from others
and just keep the pain away.
You begin to question your self-worth.
Are you really good enough?
However it is important that you surround yourself with positivity
and people who will support you fully.
Not only will this help you in moving on from your ex,
but it will also be good for your bruised ego,
as it reinforces your self-concept and rebuild your self-worth.
第三 控制愤怒 避免发飙
3. Manage your anger and avoid lashing out.
People deal with anger differently,
some people deal with it with great grace and passiveness
that epitomizes maturity.
There’re also people who would burn closets worth of clothes,
destroyed furniture and memorabilia,
cut out and shred out album after album of photos,
lash out at friends who mention something triggering.
And on occasions, come up to their ex and make a scene.
It is important to find a way to deal with the anger of a break up,
some can easily fall the deep end and resort to alcohol and drugs.
One healthy way of coping is to
try and write a journal of everything negative in the relationship.
This way not only are you letting out your feeling frustrations and angers.
It can also help justify the reasons why the break up happened in the first place.
4. Feel your emotions and deal with them.
It’s a natural reaction to push everything down and pretend that nothing happened.
Because whether we like it or not.
the world doesn’t stop if we are hurt.
After break-up, it is important to remember
that as humans we feel,
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the anger, the pain, the confusion, the frustration
and the worry that you’re not good enough
and you may never be happy again.
Acknowledging these emotions that are frightening,
However it is necessary to face them.
sift through them and deal with them in order to move on.
Set time to grieve the relationship for what it was and what it should have been..
Cry and mope,
but don’t let the negative emotions consume you and hold you back from living your life.
5.Talk it out.
There are certain days for the overwhelming feeling of pain and loneliness reaches it’s limits.
You feel hopeless,
at the same time you feel like your chest is going to burst.
Many people are capable of bouncing back from a break-up on their own.
But this isn’t possible for most,
some people have trouble coping with their emotions and will need someone to talk to.
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It could be a parent, a friend, or in most cases a therapist.
While it is painful,
talking about the relationship and the realizations after the relationship is quite helpful
in sorting out emotions.
If you’re having problems coping and feel that you’re depressed,
seek help immediately.
Even if you’re enjoying each other’s company,
something probably went wrong along the way.
Thinking of the reasons why the relationship failed
can help you realize the mistakes you probably made.
and help you understand where and why the relationship didn’t work out.
This can also help avoid making the same mistakes in future relationships.
By this time, it is important to take good care of yourself.
Take a look at the mirror and learn more about yourself,
you might realize something you never thought possible.
7. Organize your living space.
Seeing things the two of you shared will bring forth torrents of fears and painful memories.
To remedy this, you can change things up and redecorate your environment.
It can be as simple as rearranging the sofa and coffee table
to painting the whole room a different color
and changing the drapes.
Remove painful triggers that remind you of the past.
Regardless if your home reminds of your past lover.
接受改变 拥抱并接受它 从中汲取教训
It is important to acknowledge change,
embrace and accept it to learn from it.
8. Go out and have fun.
Sometimes it is easy to forget that there is a whole world outside of your own.
While break up suck
and it feels like the end of the world.
It is important not to let yourself be in by negativity of it.
Eat meals with your family.
Go outside and hang out with friends.
Jog along the block or just meet new people and dogs out in the park .
Go out and have fun.
9.Be aware of rebound relationships.
Rebound simply doesn’t work most of the time.
For some people jumping in on another relationship just shortly after a break up
is simply a way of masking the negative emotions.
It may sound nice to be embraced and appreciated by another person.
But ultimately, when the relationship fails,
the amount of negative emotions you have to do with will double.
It is important to settle things first and remain single
to reflect on yourself in a relationship before jumping in on an unsteady relationship.
Have fun and mingle but don’t commit too easily.
10. Stand by your decision.
Regardless if it was you or them that chose to end the relationship.
It is important to stand by the break up and respect the decision to separate.
It is easy to focus on the good side of the relationship,
and completely dismiss the negative side.
However, it is a balance of looking at the relationship with objective eyes
that can help romanticize the break-up.
Cherish the good moments you have with each other,
learn from the painful mistakes you did together.
Accept the situation and move forward with your life.
Greater things wait for those who strive.
记住 心碎是一个痛苦的折磨 时不时就要影响我们
Remember, a broken heart is a painful ordeal that affect us at one time or another.
会哭泣 感到消沉 沮丧
It is perfectly normal to cry,
mope and feel depressed about it.
However, one must always remember that
there is always the rainbow after the rain.
That even though it feels like the world around you is collapsing to destruction,
it’s just a part of life.
Each heart-break is a chance to learn more about yourself and how you deal with them.
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