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你缺乏自爱的 10 种表现

10 Signs You Lack Self Love

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《来吧!心理学》
Hey psych2goers! We are so glad to see you here.
欢迎来到《来吧!心理学》很高兴见到大家
And we want to thank you for supporting us.
非常感谢大家对我们的支持
Your ongoing help, sharing and liking
大家一直以来的帮助 分享和点赞
has helped psych2Go continue our mission
助力《来吧!心理学》继续完成使命
to make psychology accessible to everyone.
让每个人都能有机会了解心理学
Now, let’s begin, shall we?
现在我们开始吧
Self love is an important aspect to your well being.
自爱是幸福的一个重要方面
It affects how you view yourself,
它影响你如何看待自己
the decisions you make, and your relationships with others.
你做出的决定以及与他人的关系
However, you may have grown up in an undesirable situation,
但你可能成长在一个不太好的环境里
and these circumstances can make loving yourself extremely difficult.
这些情况下可能很难做到自爱
As a disclaimer, we wanted to say that self love is a serious and sensitive subject.
我们必须声明 “自爱”是个严肃而敏感的话题
This video is for informative purposes only.
本视频只提供了一些信息
And it’s in no way intended serve as professional mental health advice.
并不是专业的心理健康建议
If you feel that you’re struggling,
如果你觉得自己正在苦苦挣扎
it’s best to seek help from a qualified mental health professional or doctor.
最好寻求有资质的心理健康专业人士或医生的帮助
With all that said,
说完这些之后
let’s look at the 10 signs you might be lacking in self-love.
我们来看看一个人可能缺少自爱的10个迹象
No. 1 You hide your true self from others.
1 你在他人面前隐藏真实的自己
Do you feel like a metaphorical chameleon?
打个比方 你觉得自己像变色龙吗?
You change when you’re around others and hide certain parts of your personality.
身边有他人时 你会改变并隐藏自己性格中的某些部分
This process is known as masking.
这个过程叫作掩饰
You might worry about being judged for who you are
你可能担心别人会评判你的真实模样
and act differently to make up for it.
因而做出不寻常的举动来掩饰自己
Or perhaps you don’t like your certain aspect about yourself,
或者你可能不喜欢自己的某方面
and you try to change your behaviour to satisfy yourself.
所以尝试改变自己的行为以让自己满意
2. You over analyze your own behavior.
2 你过度分析自己的行为
Lacking in self love leads you to over-analyze your own behavior.
缺乏自爱让你过度分析自己的行为
You can then use this information about your behaviour to develop a mask.
你会根据分析的结果进一步掩饰自己
You study the behaviour of people around you,
你研究周围人的行为
so you can properly mimic them.
这样就能正确模仿他们
This becomes problematic when you’re hyper analyzing your behaviours
当你过度分析自己的行为
and then changing yourself in order to become someone else.
并改变自己以成为别人时 问题就来了
3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others.
3 你非常害怕别人的评价
Are you worried about what others think of you?
你担心别人怎么看你吗?
Do you think others are closely observing what you’re doing, how you’re acting,
你是不是觉得别人在意你正做什么 如何做
or what you’re wearing to the point that it makes it hard to go out in public?
或你的穿着 以至于让你很难出现在大庭广众之中?
And you might find yourself needing to make serious changes
你或许会发现 在考虑自己适合外出前
before considering yourself acceptable to go out.
需要做出重大改变
These feelings are usually highly irrational
这些感觉通常是极不理性的
and may be impacting your relationships with others.
并且可能影响到你与他人的关系
4. You struggle with physical and mental self-care.
4 你不知该如何对自己进行身心关怀
Do you find that you aren’t treating your body and mind as well as you should?
你是否觉得 本应照顾好自己的身心健康?
You might be skipping meals or overeating.
你可能会饥一顿 饱一顿
In some cases, you may have turned to alcohol and other substances to cope with your feelings.
某些情况下 你可能用酒精或其他东西来应对情绪
You might not be taking enough time out for yourself
你可能没有为自己留出足够的时间
and are neglecting to build your own happiness.
并疏于创造自己的幸福
If you relate to this,
如果你有这样的感受
how do you plan to improve your self-care?
你打算怎么多关心关心自己呢?
No. 5 You feel inferior to others.
5 你感觉低人一等
You might feel that you’re somehow inferior to others.
你可能觉得 不知怎的 自己低人一等
You could be insecure about your personality, intelligence or your appearance.
你或许对自己的性格 智力或外表不自信
These insecurities combined with a hyperawareness of others in comparison,
这些不安全感加上过度与他人的比较
leads you to harshly judge yourself and try to mask who you are.
导致你苛刻地评判自己 并极力掩饰自己
6. You’re too hard on yourself.
6 你对自己太苛刻
Do you find yourself diminishing your accomplishments
你是不是轻视自己的成就
and focusing on your faliures?
却十分介意自己的失败?
Do you think that you are not doing enough?
你是不是觉得自己做得还不够?
It’s like being in a constant uphill battle to achieve more
比如一直艰苦奋斗以获得更多成就
without taking a moment to appreciate what you’ve done.
但从不花点时间 欣赏自己的成果
You compare yourself to others and hyperfixate on your shortcomings,
你与他人作比较并过分执着于自己的缺点
never feeling satisfied with what you have.
未曾对自己拥有的东西感到满意
No. 7 You lack confidence.
7 你缺乏自信
Do you struggle to feel like your opinion and your voice matter?
你是不是觉得自己的观点或发言不重要?
Lacking confidence in yourself can lead you to discredit your ideas
缺乏自信会让你质疑自己的想法
and keep quiet instead of speaking up.
让你保持沉默 而不是大声说出来
Similar to feeling inferior,
就像低人一等的感觉一样
you feel that it’s best to not offer any input out of fear of being rejected or judged.
你觉得最好不提出任何想法 因为怕遭到拒绝或评判
8. You need excessive affirmation and attention.
8 你需要多些肯定和关注
Do you find that you need excessive affirmation that you’re doing OK?
你有没有觉得 表现良好时 自己需要多些肯定?
You might have a hard time accepting who you are
你可能难以接受自我
and need the attention and affection from others in order to feel validated.
且需要他人的关注和喜欢才能感到被认同
This puts a tremendous strain on relationships
这使得人际关系非常紧张
and can be emotionally taxing for you and the people around you.
会让你和周围的人都承受心理压力
9. You have difficult and unstable relationships.
9 你的人际关系紧张且不稳定
Relationships are difficult enough to traverse.
人际关系本就是一个复杂的问题
But if you’re lacking in self love,
但如果缺少自爱
you might have some unique problems.
你可能会遇到些特别的问题
You might feel that you shut others out of your life
你可能会感觉 把他人隔绝在了自己的生活之外
because of fear of rejection.
因为你害怕遭到拒绝
Or you might feel that you’re the inferior partner in a relationship.
或是觉得自己在恋爱关系中不如对方
and need constant validation.
需要不断被认同
You think your partner is too good for you,
你认为自己配不上人家
and this creates an unhealthy dynamic.
这造成了一种不良的关系状态
And 10. You settle for less.
10 你退而求其次
You settle for less than what you can achieve.
你所追求的远少于你应获得的
Did you give up on a dream and settle for something completely different?
你曾放弃梦想而屈就于完全不同的事情吗?
Part of this may be due to your fear of failure.
部分原因可能是你害怕失败
Or you may not feel that you have what it takes
也可能你觉得自己还不够格
and sell yourself short on achieving what you truly want.
并在自己真正想做的事情上低估自己
You may find yourself choosing to settle for a less satisfactory life.
你可能发现 自己选择将就于不尽人意的生活
Self-love is truly important.
自爱真的很重要
Life is difficult and has many ups and downs.
生活艰难 充满崎岖坎坷
It’s important to know that things can improve.
认识到事情能得到改善很重要
If you’re struggling,
如果你正和这样的感觉做斗争
it’s always good to try and reach out and talk with someone you trust.
尝试找到你信任的人并与他们交谈总是好的
Sometimes all it takes is getting in contact with the right mental health professional
有时候 只需联系好的心理健康专业人士
and taking steps to create a better life.
并逐步创造更好的生活就可以了
If you enjoyed watching this video give us a thumbs up,
如果你觉得本视频还不错 给我们点个赞
and share it with someone who might find it helpful too.
然后分享给可能需要的人吧
The studies and references are listed in the description below.
研究和参考文献列在了下面的说明里
There is also a resource for mental and substance use disorders listed for you too.
精神障碍和物质使用障碍的资料参考也在下面为你列出来了
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别忘了点击订阅按钮 收看更多《来吧!心理学》的视频
And as always, thanks for watching.
跟往常一样 感谢观看
We’ll see you next time.
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自爱是幸福的重要概念,视频介绍了10种表现以参考一个人是否缺乏自爱

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