当你听到“强壮”这个词
When you hear the word”strong”,
你首先想到的是什么？
what comes first to your mind?
你能想象道恩·强森举重的样子
Do you imagine Dwayne Johnson lifting weights
或如暴风雪般危险的天气吗？
or weather hazards like a snow blizzard?
当我们把强壮与人的体力 高矮和身形相联系
“Strong” can seem intimidating
它似乎让人望而生畏
when we associate it with physical force, size and shape.
但是 更微妙的强壮迹象
But what about the more subtle signs of strong
会在身体内部发生吗？
that can happen internally?
你可以是最矮小的人
You can be the smallest person
但仍然有能力克服难关
and still have the power to get over bad days.
我们常常低估健康心态对我们的影响
Often,we underestimate what a healthy mindset can do for us.
这儿有10个特质表明你的心理比他人更强大
Here are”10 signs you are mentally stronger than most people”.
第一 允许自己哭
1:You allow yourself to cry.
这是一个我们常常会忘记的友好提醒
Here’s a friendly reminder we commonly forget;
你不需要总是压抑自己
you don’t need to always have it together.
哭泣不是软弱的表现
Crying is not a sign of weakness;
事实上 压抑自己的情绪会导致
in fact, repressing your emotions can cause problems
如精神疲劳 高血压和记忆丧失等问题
such as mental fatigue, higher blood pressure and memory lapses.
当你阻止情绪的发作时
When you shut down on your emotions,
你的身体会承受更多的生理压力
your body takes on more physiological stress
你的大脑会认为它别无选择
and your brain will believe it has no choice
于是只能放弃那些对你来说
but to give up on remembering the event
太痛苦的事情的记忆
that is too painful for you.
但是心理学家发现
But psychologists have discovered that
哭泣可以帮助肌肉放松和缓解紧张
crying can help your muscles relax and relieve tension.
倘若必要的话 拿一个纸巾盒
Grab a tissue box if you must
释放你的悲伤和沮丧
and let out your sadness and frustrations,
没什么大不了的
it’s okay.
第二 不要试图控制一切
2:You don’t try to control everything.
当事情进展不顺利的时候
Do you have a tendency to latch onto things and ruminate
你是否想过了解事情并自我反省
when they aren’t going well?
在这个时代 我们强调忙碌
In this day and age, we emphasize hustling.
我们认为 倘若我们不能承担高负荷的工作
We think that if we aren’t overloading ourselves with tasks,
那么我们就得不到我们想要的结果
then we won’t get the results we want.
但是 速度很重要
But,pace is important;
倘若你一直消耗自己
if you’re constantly burning yourself out,
那你是离自己的目标越来越近
are you really getting closer to your goal
还是越来越远呢？
or further away from it?
有时候 你只需要耐心等待就可以了
Sometimes you just have to be patient and wait thinks out.
第三 明智地利用时间
3:You use your time wisely.
现在 仅仅因为你必须等待
Now,just because you have to wait things out
并不意味着你需要完全放松
doesn’t mean you need to slack off completely.
这会促进懒惰
This can promote laziness
而不能养成富有成效的心态
instead of a productive mindset.
诸如减肥或从求职申请中得到反馈之类的活动
Activities like losing weight or hearing back from
将不可避免地需要耗费时间
job applications will inevitably take time.
把你的努力引向其它自我提高的领域
Channel your efforts into other areas of self-improvement
不仅要注意你的目标 还要注意你自己
and be mindful of not only your goals but yourself.
当你的生活没有规划
Maybe read up on nutrition
或者无法追赶上朋友或家人的脚步时
when you are not working out
可以仔细研究营养学的书
or catch up with friends and family;
让每一天都有意义
make every day count.
第四 学会感恩
4:You practice gratitude.
你是否觉得宇宙的运转是为了你？
Do you ever feel like the universe is out to get you?
抱怨一切事物可能极具诱惑力
It might be tempting to complain about everything,
但是学会静下心来深呼吸
but take a deep breath, appreciate the people
欣赏生活中的人和事
and things you have in your life
看看自己走了多远
and look how far you’ve come.
你可能还不能像你想的那样搬出去
You might not be able to move out just yet like you wanted to
或者你的旅行因为紧急情况取消了
or maybe your trip got canceled due to an emergency,
沮丧没什么大不了
it’s okay to be frustrated,
但是不要陷入扮演受害者的陷阱
but don’t fall in the trap of playing the victim,
这只会让你更加退缩
that just holds you back even further.
第五 善待他人
5:You are kind to others.
善良的人常因为被人欺负而受到不好的评价
Kind people often get a bad rep for being pushovers.
但是我告诉你 这与事实相差甚远
But let me tell you, that is far from the truth.
学会共情 同情和怜悯心
Practicing empathy, sympathy and compassion,
即使一切都出了问题
even when everything is going wrong,
也是一种真正力量的表现
is a sign of true strength.
想想看
Think about it;
如果你愿意放弃你的自我陶醉行为
if you’re willing to let go of your self-absorbed behavior
专注于对世界产生积极影响
in order to focus on being a positive impact to the world,
当你知道没有人会回报你时
that takes courage when you know
这需要勇气
no one owes you anything in return.
第六 接受新的思想
6:You are open to new ideas.
如果有些东西不再符合你的价值观
If something no longer agrees with your values,
你可以改变想法继续做更好的事
it’s okay to change your mind and move on to better things.
我们常常认为放弃是一种软弱的表现
We often think giving up is a sign of weakness,
但事实并非总是如此
but that’s not always the case;
精神强壮的人不会顽固的坚持那些
mentally strong people will not stubbornly hold on to situations
不再为他们服务的情况
that no longer serve them well.
相反 他们会乐于接受新的想法
Instead,they will welcome new ideas,
放弃那些阻止了他们成长
let go of what keeps them from growing and
让他们适应生活方式的变化
adapt to lifestyles changes that
从长远来看 于他们是有益的
will help them in the long run.
第七 从错误中吸取教训
7:You learn from your mistakes.
你每天都会花时间来反思自己的行为吗？
Do you take time every day to reflect on your actions?
这个习惯将使你的生活走得更远
This habit will take you far in life.
那些倾向于重蹈覆辙
People who tend to repeat their mistakes
专注于自责或责怪外部因素的人
or focus on self-blame or blame external factors
而不是解决问题的人更有可能
instead of problem-solving are more likely to
停留在一个有毒的循环
stay in a toxic cycle.
学会原谅自己
Learn to forgive yourself,
在你做错事时学会道歉
apologizing when you’ve done something wrong
并且乐于接受反馈 以便变得更好
and be open to feedback in order to get better.
第八 负责任的花钱
8:You spend money responsibly.
好吧 倘若你因买了不需要的东西感到内疚
Alright,raise your hand
请举手吧
if you’re guilty of buying things you don’t need.
当你在收件箱中收到销售警报
When you get sale alerts in your inbox
或看到照片墙上有商品赞助时
or see merchandise being sponsored on Instagram,
参加冲动购买是极具吸引力的
it’s super tempting to take part in impulse buying.
但所有这些都能满足你的肾上激素激升
But all that does is satisfy your adrenaline rush.
从长远来看 你可能会放弃这些物品
In the long run, you might end up tossing these items.
精神强壮的人是自律的
Mentally strong people are self-disciplined;
倘若他们想要什么东西
they wait things out and ask themselves after a week
他们会等一周后再来问自己是否想要
if they still want something.
这项技术不仅仅为他们节约了钱
Not only does this technique save them money,
而且他们会意识到
but they become self-aware on
真正给他们带来生活乐趣的是什么
what truly brings them joy in life.
第九 不要相互依赖
9:You don’t lean on codependency.
相互依赖发生在你没有强烈的自我意识
Codependency occurs when you don’t have a strong sense
并且依赖别人来验证的时候
of self and rely on others for validation.
当你学会自给自足时
When you practice self-sufficiency,
从内心寻找快乐
find happiness from within
学会如何独自处理你的问题时
and learn how to deal with your problems alone,
你允许别人支持你 而不是拯救你
you allow others to support you, not rescue you.
相反 当你不控制他人来帮助你时
In turn, this strengthens your relationships
这会巩固你们之间的关系
when you don’t manipulate or possess others to help you.
第十 继续坚持下去
10:You continue to persist.
缓慢而稳定的赢得比赛
Slow and steady wins the race.
拒绝 失败和逆境会出现在你面前
Rejections,failures and adversities will come your way,
但是精神坚强的人会意识到他们的局限
but mentally strong people are aware of their limitations
并践行现实的乐观主义
and practice realistic optimism.
他们不会把他们的幻想夸大
They don’t blow their fantasies out of proportion
并且专注于眼前的事
and focus on what’s in front of them.
一天一次地做一件事
Taking things one day at a time
把你的梦想分成更小的目标
and chunking your dreams into smaller goals
会让你更加容易实现梦想
will bring you closer to making them real.
需要一些灵感吗？
Need some inspiration?
查查Jacadamia频道
Check out Jacadamia channel,
他的脑部手术恢复后 继续用他的动画
he recovered from brain surgery and continues to search
寻找希望和感激
for hope and gratitude with his animations.
如果你能表达对他支持和喜爱就更好了
It would mean a lot to him and us
这对他和我们都很重要
if you showed him some support and love.
倘若你喜欢这个视频 请竖起大拇指
Also give this video a Thumbs Up if you liked it.
和往常一样 谢谢观看！
And as always, thanks for watching!