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虐待关系的十条危险信号

10 Relationship Red Flags of Abuse

当人们提及虐待时
When people think of abuse,
常常将它等同于躯体暴力
they often equate it to physical violence.
但这并不是虐待开始或结束的地方
But that isn’t where abuse starts or ends.
虐待可以是躯体上的 精神上的或者情感上的
Abuse can be physical, mental, or emotional
或者介于以上两者之间的
and everything in between.
理解虐待由什么构成至关重要
It is important to understand what constitutes as abuse
你能做些什么呢 当你意识到
and what you can do about it if you come to the realization
你被虐待了
that you are being abused.
这里列出了10个你可能会遇到的危险信号
What follows is a list of 10 red flags you might run into
来看你是否处于虐待关系中
if you are in an abusive relationship.
这个列表并不是唯一的被虐待的危险信号
This list is not meant to be the only red flags of abuse.
如果你觉得自己被虐待了
And if you feel that you are being abused,
请寻求帮助
please seek out help.
这将有一份简短的资源清单
There will be a short list of resources
将在这个视频中描述
and descriptions from this video.
控制行为
1. Controlling behavior
在许多虐待关系中施虐者会
In many abusive relationships the abuser will
想要控制受虐者生活的方方面面
want to control every aspect of their victim’s life.
他们可能想知道受害者在和谁谈话
They might want to know who their victim is talking to,
他们计划和谁会面
who they are planning to meet up with,
或者他们要去的地方
or where they are going.
这甚至可以让他们控制受害者的穿着
This can even flow into them controling what their victim wears,
他们的妆容
how their makeup looks,
他们的言行举止
or how they carry themselves.
羞辱你
2. Humiliates you
这种行为经常发生在其他人面前
This behavior is often done in front of other people,
也许是他或她的朋友
perhaps his or her friends,
这作为一种方法来控制受害者
and is used as a way to keep their victim down.
施虐者的目标是让他们感到虚弱和渺小
The abuser’s goal is to make them feel weak and small
这样受害者就会一蹶不振
so that the victim doesn’t stand up for themselves.
负罪感
3. Guilt Trips
这是一种施虐者所采用的方法
This is a method employed by abusers to get their way.
他们可能会这样说
They might say something like
“如果你爱我 你就会(不会)这样做”
“if you loved me you would/wouldn’t do this”
或者“我觉得这对你来说意味着什么
or “I though this meant something to you,
但很显然我是错的”
but apparently I was wrong.”
希望通过让受害者沮丧而体验到糟糕至极的感觉
The hope is that the victim will feel bad for letting their abuser down,
然后妥协退让 无原则满足施虐者
and just give in to whatever it is they want.
强迫你为他们的感受负责
4. Forces you to take responsibility for their feelings.
施虐者将使用这种策略作为一种操纵
The abuser will use this tactic as a form of manipulation.
他们会说“你惹我生气了”
They may say “you make me angry”
或是“看你做的这事(看你做的那事)”
or “you’ve done this/you’ve done that”
作为一种让受害者对任何不好的事情负责的方法
as a way to make their victim feel responsible for anything bad.
这是为了继续满足施虐者
This is meant to push that victim to work on
讨他欢心
making the abuser happy at all times.
施虐者想控制受害者
The abuser wants to keep their victim in line
让他们觉得全都是自己的错
and making them feel like it’s all their faults,
从而完全服从施虐者的控制
helps the abuser control their victim’s actions.
最后通牒
5. Ultimatums
有了最后通牒 施虐者试图用暴力获得他们想要的
With ultimatums the abuser is trying to get what they want by force
而不是攻击受害者
without laying hands on their victim.
有了最后通牒 施虐者会抓住受害者的弱点
With an ultimatum the abuser might hold someone over their victim’s head,
也许是孩子 甚至他们的家
perhaps and child or even their home,
来力图获得对形势的绝对控制
in an attempt to gain absolute control over the situation.
施虐者或许会这样说
The abuser might say something like
“如果你和你的朋友出去 我就拿走你的信用卡”
“if you go out with your friends, I’ll take away your credit cards.”
或是“如果你离开我 我就自杀”
or “if you leave me, I’ll kill myself.”
躯体暴力
6. Physical violence
如果施虐者不能用语言来表达
If the abuser can’t get their way with words,
他们可以也会诉诸于暴力
they can and will resort to violence.
这可以从小事开始 比如
This can start off as small things like
在争论中握住受害者的手臂
holding their victim’s arms during an argument
这会使他们完全殴打受害者甚至杀了他们
and lead up to completely beating their victim or even killing them.
打 扼喉 绊 推甚至是砸
Hitting, choking, tripping, pushing, or throwing things
都是一段关系中所有形式的躯体暴力
are all forms of physical violence in a relationship.
坏脾气
7. A bad temper
施虐者可能脾气暴躁
The abuser might have a short fuse
或者在一些事情上大发雷霆
or just blow up over something
这对其他人来说不是什么大不了的事
that doesn’t look like a big deal to anyone else.
这不仅仅是愤怒的一个症状
This isn’t just a symptom of having anger issues,
这也是另一种操纵行为
it is also yet another form of manipulation.
这样做是为了恐吓受害者
The goal of this is to scare the victim into being subservient
让他们尽其所能的服从
and obedient by doing anything they can
来阻止他们的施虐者生气
to stop their abuser from getting angry.
强迫你去做你不想做的事
8. Forces you to do things you don’t want to
这可能意味着你要去看电影
This can mean anything from making you go to the movies
当你宁愿待在家里
when you’d rather stay home
让你做一些不想做的事
to making you do something physically that you don’t want to do.
这是施虐者控制受害者的另一种方法
It is another way for the abuser to gain control over their victim.
有些人甚至在看到受害者不安时感到快乐
Some might even find pleasure in watching their victim be uncomfortable.
不断的检查你
9. Constantly checks up on you
施虐者可能会将其作为一种控制受害者的方法
An abuser might employ this as a way of keeping their victim in line.
他们要求受害者在他们外出的时候定时发送短信
They may demand that their victim text them at certain intervals while they are out
甚至要求受害者发送特定的照片
and can even request that the victim send specific pictures,
比如他们举起V字形手势
like them holding up a peace sign
或者是一张和朋友在一起时的自拍
or a selfie with the friend they said they were with.
寻衅打架
10. Picking a fight
施虐者会通过这样做来测试你的忍耐度
An abuser might do this to test your limits.
他们会想知道他们能在多大程度上进行一场战斗
They will want to know how far they can take a fight
看看你会愿意为什么道歉
and see what all you might be willing to apologize for.
他们不会为任何事负责
They won’t take responsibility for anything
反而会让你觉得这都是你的错
and will instead make you feel as if it was all your fault.
一旦战斗结束 他们可能会马上原谅你
Once the fight is over they may forgive you right away
或者保持冷漠的外观
or they may keep up a cold facade
来看你会做什么去重获他们的欢心
to see what you might do to win back their favor.
如果你觉得你可能处于一种虐待关系中
If you feel like you might be in an abusive relationship,
请寻求帮助
please seek help.
如果你被虐待 你可以尽快拨打911报警
If you are actively being abused call 911 as soon as you can and report it.
这也有很多基于你生活的选择
There are also many options based on where you live as well.
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There are some links and descriptions in this video.
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视频概述

本视频通过描述虐待关系十条危险信号来帮助人们了解并明确自己是否处于虐待关系

听录译者

Sherry

翻译译者

凌月

审核员

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视频来源

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