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10个常见的恋爱问题

10 Common Relationship Problems

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你是否曾遇到一个能让你对自己说
Have you ever met someone and thought to yourself
我将要和这个人共度余生的人?
Man, I could spend the rest of my life with this person?
紧接着 随着你对他们几年的了解
Then, as you get to know them over a few years
或许只是短短的几个月
or maybe it’s only been a few months.
你们面临的矛盾开始让你们的感情产生裂痕
But the challenges you face start tearing you guys apart.
这被称为“成长的烦恼”
They call these growing pains,
但何时才能不再有这种烦恼
but when does the pain stop
以及为什么你会觉得自己在逃避呢?
and why does it feel like you’re shrinking instead?
你想过你和你另一半错在哪里吗?
Are you wondering where you and your partner went wrong?
以下是10个情侣间的常见错误
Here are 10 common relationship mistakes.
第一 认为对方的行为理所应当
1.You take your partner for granted.
心里学家苏珊•惠特本认为
Psychologists Susan Whitburn says
你很容易忽视你最亲近的人
it’s too easy to dismiss the people you’re closest to
因为你已经习惯了他们的付出
because you expect them to be there no matter what.
虽然 相信你的伴侣能陪你度过低谷是件好事
Although it’s great that you trust your partner to stick around on the bad days,
但这并不意味着你能要求他们时刻围着你转
it doesn’t mean you have to force them to sync with you each time.
时间一长 你的自私行为只会导致积怨
In the long run, selfish behavior only results to resentment.
第二 越过了对方的底线
2.You overstep your partner’s boundaries.
人无完人 即便是你的灵魂伴侣
No one’s perfect, not even your soulmate,
所以 当你在感情中不留余地表露你的缺点时
so when you don’t leave room in your relationship to show your flaws,
这样很容易引起对方的不满
it can easily lead to relationship dissatisfaction.
多伦多大学的李教授(在这里向加拿大人表示感谢)发现
Professor Lee from the University of Toronto, (shout out to our Canadians) discovered that
认为自己与对方完美契合的情侣
people who view relationships as a perfect unity
比那些认为情侣关系就是一场旅程的情侣更容易分手
have a worse relationship than those who see it as a journey of growing.
第三 总是在玩假设的游戏
3. You play that assumption game.
你是否有过因某人的错误结论而感到沮丧的经历?
Have you ever been upset because someone jumped to the wrong conclusion?
约会和关系教练 布罗克·伯格曼认为
Dating and relationship coach, Broke Bergman said that
当我们自认为知道对方在想什么的时候
this happens all the time in a relationship
“假设游戏”就会在情侣关系中时常上演
when we assume we know what our partners need.
但有时 无知令你卑恭 询问并非伤害
But sometimes, not knowing can be humbling and asking never hurts.
第四 双方逃避已有矛盾
4.You and your partner avoid conflict.
情侣间的快乐和自己日常的开心是有区别的
There’s a difference between a happy relationship and being happy every day
并且绝大多数情况下
And more often than not,
应建立包括争吵在内的健康良性的情侣关系
establishing that healthy fulfilling relationship includes fighting.
第五 过于较真 为小事而争吵
5.You obsess and fight over everything.
换句话说
On the other hand,
如果你易走极端 为一些小事而动怒
if you swing to extreme and get mad over the small details,
这也对你们的情侣关系不利
this can also be bad for the relationship.
在你发作之前 退一步想一想
Before reacting, take a step back and consider
对方的行为是不是真的无法原谅
whether your partner’s actions are true deal breakers.
第六 你的幸福很大程度上取决于和你的伴侣在一起
6.Your happiness depends too much on being with your partner.
当你坦诚自己的需求时 寻求帮助是件好事
Asking for help is good when you’re being honest about your needs.
但如果你的每个决定都要征询对方的建议
But if you need to consult your partner before making every decision,
你将会变得失去自我
you’ll forget to be your own person.
第七 经常质疑你们的关系
7. You constantly question your relationship.
在你们的关系真正产生问题前
Do you think about what problems your relationship will face
你有想过问题到底是什么吗?
before they actually occur?
当你能和对方沟通解决问题的时候
Constantly ruminating will only bring you to a dark place
不断地沉思只会让你陷得更深
when you could be using that time instead to talk things out with your partner.
第八 在情侣关系中计较得失
8.You keep score in your relationship.
心理学教授及情感专家 玛丽莎•科汉
Psychology professor and relationship expert Marissa Cohan,
见多了这种情感态度
sees this one happen a lot.
当你执着于和对方保持感情得失的平衡时
When you obsess over keeping things equal with your partner,
不论是互送礼物还是相互帮忙
whether it means exchanging gifts or doing favors,
都意味着你已不再看重感情本身
you no longer focus on the relationship.
而是你自己
Instead, it’s about you
第九 不再善待彼此
9. You stop being kind to each other.
基于心理学家约翰•戈特曼的研究
Based on his studies,
他能预测哪些情侣将会分手或者在多年后仍然幸福地在一起
psychologist John Gottman can predict with up to 94 % certainty
这一预测的准确率高达94%
which couples will be either broken up or still be happy and together many years down the road.
影响因素只有一个
It all comes down to one factor,
就是善良
kindness.
从你蔑视对方的那一刻起
The minute you show contempt for your partner,
你已经不太可能会解决问题了
the less likely you already are to work things out.
第十 感到绝望后过早放弃你们的感情
10. You feel hopeless and give up on the relationship too soon.
社会媒体经常向你展示情侣间甜蜜的行为
Social media often shows you the sweet side of the relationships.
比如牵手 逗人的吻痕 周年纪念
The hand-holding, adorable pecks on the cheeks and anniversary celebrated.
但这背后
But behind the scenes,
需要付出很多努力让“爱情之火”永不熄灭
it takes hard work and commitment to keep the flame living.
当感情一受挫 你就过早放弃
When you give up too soon when the going get’s tough,
你也将错失和对方一起提高感情抗压性的机会
you also miss out on building resilience together.
这些感情错误中 你经常会犯哪些错误
Which of these relationship mistakes do you often run into
现在 你又想做出怎样的改变呢?
and what would you like to do differently now?
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